Finding underwear which is not yours at home

[digdug]

Originally Posted by cumfast

we know that the underwear is not yours and 99% she is having sex with a man in your house...

do you actually feel upset, angry or ... you feel excited by the thought of it?

i don't know... maybe i am naive... but i see it as an opportunity to change your sex life... threesomes?

99%? Not sure now after RayCom's analysis.

Excited? No, just concerned.

Threesome? If it was another girl, I'm game. If it's another guy, I don't think so...

[Castrol]

Originally Posted by slider_72

In TS's first post, he said that it sort of "evens out", so I take it that he doesn't really want to confront his wife about it.

if thats true, the time bomb is ticking...

Originally Posted by RayCom

hmmmm.........how come most people just jump into conclusion that the wife must be having a affair with someone?

I strongly believe that the underwear is planted there to see if the hubby ever notice anything about the house / wife /kids....etc etc. Believe she wans attention from TS.

plant a underwear to get attention... how is the wife going to prove her intention when the husband confronts her?

[GroupSpy]

But how come the other man's underwear is in your drawer ? Can be so careless meh ?

So what happened ?

The guy had sex with your wife, then go bath but change underwear with yours ? (I mean i wont wear another's man underwear mah!!) Then he leave his soiled underwear at the laundry area ? Your maid wash the laundry and thought you got new underwear so put inside your drawer ? Then your wife suddenly remember and throw the underwear away hoping you did not discover it ?

[sta1100]

Hi bro, your answer to this is very good, it nice to know that there are someone here still care for other

UOTE=Xgenre;4995831]My views. Got to think long term and big picture.

1. Remember that if things get worse and a divorce occurs, YOU will be the only loser. She can possibly get half of your assets acquired after marriage, monthly alimony and (worst of all) sole custody of your children. So whatever you do, think carefully first. Why do you think some guys say they can put up with such stuff and are suffering silently for the sake of the children? Cos not being around for your children, watching them grow is the most painful part of the divorce. Money can be earned back but kids can't stop growing and you can't buy the lost time back.

2. You chose not to do anything when you saw the evidence. What can you do now? She will deny everything I'm sure. If the roles were reversed, wouldn't you deny as well? If the same thing happens again, I won't suggest you subtly put the underwear on the bed as suggested. It might be a catalyst that leads to divorce.

3. Is she a good mother? If your stories are true and you travel a lot, you will need a partner who is a good mother and can take care of things while you are gone. Even if the love is dead, if she can still perform her other roles well, it's definitely worth considering staying on. Divorce means you lose a wife and your kids lose a loving family hor.

4. Is the love dead? Is she worth fighting for to get her heart back to you? If the love is dead, I will close one eye as long as she doesn't nag at me or tries to pick up fights over small issues. If you still want her back, then slowly woo her.

My point is I know of guys who get very angry cos of ego and pride issues. End up losing access to kids and suffering more. When kids are involved, I think we should swallow our pride at times and learn to have a smaller ego. Let's be more emotionally intelligent (EQ). After all, you fuck around outside too and she might actually know and is keeping quiet for the sake of the kids also.[/QUOTE]

[terrible ted]

Wear it. Don't waste.

[climaxguy]

hey guy... really trouble decision to make...but i am sure most of the guy will make a big fuss when this happen to them... but its also depend on how much you love and understand your wife...

[arizona]

TS,

I think you should not felt guilty over anything, esp your sexual desire, its pretty normal to almost every guys. At least you didnt pickup a mistress along the way that jeopardize your family.

Not to add salt to wound.
Sorry to say that once a women gone astray... it will continue to ... I hv been with ladies who strays...so from their lists of exp, thats what they told me..it become an addiction in a way...the thrill of getting laid(while attached to matrimony or any BGR) adds and heighten the sexual excitement. It is totally different as in whoring around with WL/FL, same goes with them.

There is this deep lust in everyone...but for women once she open to lust... the crave for it is hard to die down.

Man can P4P, while ladies hardly hv that wide range. so Flinging around comes to them like a good dessert after meal.

Juz my few cents...
Cheers

[RayCom]

Originally Posted by Castrol

if thats true, the time bomb is ticking...



plant a underwear to get attention... how is the wife going to prove her intention when the husband confronts her?

Sorry to quote the whole chunk . Ok simple if its the brother's Indies he can be witness man . If she put it there then she could just keep the receipt . Wait ,who knows she got it new for the TS but after she saw be nvr wear. Got angry and throw it away

[digdug]

It's not new and also one size too small for me. It does look like some of my underwear.

Regardless of whether she strayed or not, I still love her the same. She's a good wife and mother. So, I'm not going to take any action and just let it be.

[ah rat]

Originally Posted by digdug

It's not new and also one size too small for me. It does look like some of my underwear.

Regardless of whether she strayed or not, I still love her the same. She's a good wife and mother. So, I'm not going to take any action and just let it be.

Maybe yours wife fetish on man underwear

[Retrosynthesis]

Originally Posted by digdug

It's not new and also one size too small for me. It does look like some of my underwear.

Regardless of whether she strayed or not, I still love her the same. She's a good wife and mother. So, I'm not going to take any action and just let it be.

I salute you! Level headed and fair!

I think Raycom's analysis is more likely.

Or maybe it was your old underwear? Underwear she bought for you but realised it was the wrong size? Or it was your kid's underwear?

Unless your wife is terribly careless and her supposed lover is also so careless, no one would leave their belongings behind, and forgot to wipe their mouth after a secret meal. Maybe strands of hair, tissue under the bed, number of condoms in house lesser etc.... but leaving underwear behind is very unlikely.

I had a lover once, she'll clean up the place until even strands of hair on the sofa are gone (top, not bottom as I shave ). Rubbish would be cleared, cups washed and dried, etc. Woman have much more to lose than man if caught, so it wouldn't be likely she is so careless.

[Cheonging101]

Wa lao eh... reminds me of another bro's thread where his wife swallowed another guy's cum then purposely went home to "lar ji" with him.

This one worse! At your home! In your room! Imagine fucking on your bed! His siao all over where you usually sleep! Cum raw inside your wife's pussy! If pregnant also donno whose kid! Got disease even worse!

I agree that it would be rather fair if you're also fucking outside... but there are other variables.

1) Are you using protection? What about her?
2) Are you emotionally attached to your fucks? What about her?
3) Do you fuck in the same bed with other women? What about her?

But of course, that is the worst case scenario lah. It really might be, just as other bros said, a test to see how much you care. Shutting up about it might be detrimental in this case.

[fringe929]

dude, ever thought that it may just be a new underwear your wife buy for you? she even washed it for your first liao. And for the case it gone missing, she got disappointed you did not want to touch it and thus threw it away...

you see, things will get better if you learn how to look at things in another manner although the "truth" may not be so.

you posting on this forum means you do not know what to do as you are caught in the middle of either confronting her or trying to let it go. giving yourself an excuse to forget this is the best way to go base on my impression on your take in protecting your family.

all the best in whatever you do bro.

[niteragester]

If this is the way you want to maintain the relation w your wife, then can just leave it alone.

There can be many explanations of why its there. some other biatch may have told your wife to do that and see your reaction as a measure of how much you love her, which I find totally ridiculous and would slap that biatch if I ever find out who she is.

unless you are away for a couple of days each time, its quite unlikely to have accidentally left it there unless he was staying there for a few days and left it in the wash.

If he really did stay a few days, then you might as well end the relationship, like some Bros said, install a hidden cam and catch them, and sue the ass off her, and get the house and any of her assets.

another conclusion is that a male relative visited and needed to change cos he somehow shit in his pants. keke...

my rule: don't eat and shit at the same place...

anyways, IMHO, which ever way I choose to take, first thing I will do is pour lots of itching powder on it, make it look like it has been untouched, put it back, and hope to hell he will wear it... maybe you will even catch who it is.

With my miserable points, if you feel that my post is helpful, do help me up my points

[ADT007]

Originally Posted by niteragester

anyways, IMHO, which ever way I choose to take, first thing I will do is pour lots of itching powder on it, make it look like it has been untouched, put it back, and hope to hell he will wear it... maybe you will even catch who it is.

What if next day his father or brother was seen scratching his groin ?