relaxguy
16-10-2006, 04:36 AM
Dear Brothers and all,
Firstly, I would like to sincerely say sorry to those who will be disappointed as there will not be any erotic materials in this threat.
Please let me introduce myself. I am in my late 20s, going to get engaged and married and have been on and off here a lot, reading and getting tips from all the brothers here even though I have nothing much to contribute yet.
I have a problem here which I hope anyone here can help. Any help is good because I think I am really stupid to be caught in the middle of 2 women. I hope that any kind brothers here will be able to give their opinion and hope that these words would wake me up from this dreamlike state that surronds me. If I am a bastard, or have done something wrong, I hope you have the kindness to show me, so that I will not bring the same harm again to anyone or myself again.
I thank you all those who have read so far and I will explain the situation now.
I met and got to know a Shanghai girl(A) who is average in looks and we are together for 1.1/2 years. I was based in Shenzhen and thus fly frequently and I met her through work. Honestly speaking through the heart, intially I felt she was the one for me and I had intented to marry her. She was very devoted, and I can honestly say that she would go all out to please me, to wait for me, encourage me, even support me when I am financially strained (now I realize how much). I was also devoted at that time and we would go for weekends together and even visits me often in Singapore and vice versa. Our love is such that I even waited 3 days at an airport as there is a typhoon and she waited for me at the airport... She is no good digger, as I have tested many times and she will give in to my every wimp and taste, even when she knows sometimes when I am wrong. I write her poems, go to phuket etc etc. many happy memories.
However, my family does not like her, since she is from prc and we being singaporeans. Also her family is not very compatible and since I am doing some small buz of my own, I was beginning to feel the stress, as she is working and could not offer me much buz help and beginning of buz this year was stressful and demanding. Then comes B who is rich, pretty, smart and able to help me. I fell in love with her too, i know it sounds crazy, but I think there are many who could fall in love with 2 at the same time.
Anyways, long words short talk, we decided to get engaged end of this year, as our family background are similiar. B is from a good family and will be able to be a good wife and a good business partner. I am also able to be comfortable with B.
I continue to meet both A and B, and B knew about A but A did not know about B. However, B is always treating me very similiar to the way when we are together, even though I broke up with her. We sleep together, eat together when I am in Shanghai. A is still the only one who could make me feel at ease with myself, and sex with her is top notch, and I dont think i can find someone to top her.
However, all these changed during a business trip. I called A late one night and then the 1st time in her life, she told me she is with friend and will call me later. Later on, she confessed that she is on a date with X. Although I should be happy for her, I am not. However, I am now with B and I have no right to question A. A still say that she wants to be the same person to me always, however, all is changing, as I sensed something changing...
anyways, to cut short the story, in the last 3 days, many things changed, so fast that even I was unable to digest and comprehend. She starts lying to me. She told me she is going on buz meetings, but she slipped her mind and later told me she went on lunch date with X last thurs. Then things start to go out of a pattern she normally follows. For 3 consercutive nights, she went missing and the phone was left ringing for a long time, something that was impossible since we are together, returning calls after 12pm. She later claimed she went dancing (bachelette party), go out to dinner with her girl friends without bring her phone, something she never did before.
Tonight, it was even stranger.She told me she was going shopping and then ice skating by sms, then when i called her and talk to her, the events was in reverse. Also, she claimed she is going with her cousins with 1 i know and 2 others i dont know. there is a time gap between the time she calls me and get home, about 3 hours. i am guessing she has been calling mr x and going out with him for the last few nights. How practical and "xianshi". And I can strongly sense that she is putting a big gap between us.
The issue here is this:
I am actually holding back on the engagement becoz I really think that A could be worth it, but the way events are turning out, i am not so sure anymore. I actually told A about this, but then she just suddenly hangs up the phone and power off it, something that she has never done in the 1,1/2 years together. Seriously wrong...
My logic is this.
1)she started lying so much i can catch, so i think its a bad sign.
2)her attitude changed and many changes in her life pattern
3)B is a good wife material, and I love her enough to marry her. However, why do I feel sour hearted when I hear and see A doing these things like going on dates etc?
4)I am seriously considering postponing the engagement for A.
My idea is :
forget about A, and get on with B. But I cannot forget A and are seriously considering postponing or cancelling the engagement, but with the way A is, isn;t it even worse?
Also, B truly loves me and have no idea of this.
Help!
1)Do any of the brothers here agree? If not any other suggestions? Any alternative views on things?
All critisim are welcome. I am an idiot to land myself in this shoe.
My future happines will be based on the veiws I get here, and I thank everyone in advance.
- Thanks for reading and I hope to have some response.
A guy who wish to do the right thing.
Firstly, I would like to sincerely say sorry to those who will be disappointed as there will not be any erotic materials in this threat.
Please let me introduce myself. I am in my late 20s, going to get engaged and married and have been on and off here a lot, reading and getting tips from all the brothers here even though I have nothing much to contribute yet.
I have a problem here which I hope anyone here can help. Any help is good because I think I am really stupid to be caught in the middle of 2 women. I hope that any kind brothers here will be able to give their opinion and hope that these words would wake me up from this dreamlike state that surronds me. If I am a bastard, or have done something wrong, I hope you have the kindness to show me, so that I will not bring the same harm again to anyone or myself again.
I thank you all those who have read so far and I will explain the situation now.
I met and got to know a Shanghai girl(A) who is average in looks and we are together for 1.1/2 years. I was based in Shenzhen and thus fly frequently and I met her through work. Honestly speaking through the heart, intially I felt she was the one for me and I had intented to marry her. She was very devoted, and I can honestly say that she would go all out to please me, to wait for me, encourage me, even support me when I am financially strained (now I realize how much). I was also devoted at that time and we would go for weekends together and even visits me often in Singapore and vice versa. Our love is such that I even waited 3 days at an airport as there is a typhoon and she waited for me at the airport... She is no good digger, as I have tested many times and she will give in to my every wimp and taste, even when she knows sometimes when I am wrong. I write her poems, go to phuket etc etc. many happy memories.
However, my family does not like her, since she is from prc and we being singaporeans. Also her family is not very compatible and since I am doing some small buz of my own, I was beginning to feel the stress, as she is working and could not offer me much buz help and beginning of buz this year was stressful and demanding. Then comes B who is rich, pretty, smart and able to help me. I fell in love with her too, i know it sounds crazy, but I think there are many who could fall in love with 2 at the same time.
Anyways, long words short talk, we decided to get engaged end of this year, as our family background are similiar. B is from a good family and will be able to be a good wife and a good business partner. I am also able to be comfortable with B.
I continue to meet both A and B, and B knew about A but A did not know about B. However, B is always treating me very similiar to the way when we are together, even though I broke up with her. We sleep together, eat together when I am in Shanghai. A is still the only one who could make me feel at ease with myself, and sex with her is top notch, and I dont think i can find someone to top her.
However, all these changed during a business trip. I called A late one night and then the 1st time in her life, she told me she is with friend and will call me later. Later on, she confessed that she is on a date with X. Although I should be happy for her, I am not. However, I am now with B and I have no right to question A. A still say that she wants to be the same person to me always, however, all is changing, as I sensed something changing...
anyways, to cut short the story, in the last 3 days, many things changed, so fast that even I was unable to digest and comprehend. She starts lying to me. She told me she is going on buz meetings, but she slipped her mind and later told me she went on lunch date with X last thurs. Then things start to go out of a pattern she normally follows. For 3 consercutive nights, she went missing and the phone was left ringing for a long time, something that was impossible since we are together, returning calls after 12pm. She later claimed she went dancing (bachelette party), go out to dinner with her girl friends without bring her phone, something she never did before.
Tonight, it was even stranger.She told me she was going shopping and then ice skating by sms, then when i called her and talk to her, the events was in reverse. Also, she claimed she is going with her cousins with 1 i know and 2 others i dont know. there is a time gap between the time she calls me and get home, about 3 hours. i am guessing she has been calling mr x and going out with him for the last few nights. How practical and "xianshi". And I can strongly sense that she is putting a big gap between us.
The issue here is this:
I am actually holding back on the engagement becoz I really think that A could be worth it, but the way events are turning out, i am not so sure anymore. I actually told A about this, but then she just suddenly hangs up the phone and power off it, something that she has never done in the 1,1/2 years together. Seriously wrong...
My logic is this.
1)she started lying so much i can catch, so i think its a bad sign.
2)her attitude changed and many changes in her life pattern
3)B is a good wife material, and I love her enough to marry her. However, why do I feel sour hearted when I hear and see A doing these things like going on dates etc?
4)I am seriously considering postponing the engagement for A.
My idea is :
forget about A, and get on with B. But I cannot forget A and are seriously considering postponing or cancelling the engagement, but with the way A is, isn;t it even worse?
Also, B truly loves me and have no idea of this.
Help!
1)Do any of the brothers here agree? If not any other suggestions? Any alternative views on things?
All critisim are welcome. I am an idiot to land myself in this shoe.
My future happines will be based on the veiws I get here, and I thank everyone in advance.
- Thanks for reading and I hope to have some response.
A guy who wish to do the right thing.