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Thank you for being meticulous and check back the background to my story and issue. I am thankful that i gave out this cry for help and advice.
I am in my early 30s. Financially stable.
I have requested for her to come to visit my parents but she says that her mum will not allow her to come without my parent going over to talk about marraige first. I reckon that this is to prevent her family to lose face in the case of coming to visit me and then later on the marraige never happen. Her mum is worried that I cheat her.
So it puts me in a catch 22 situation. If this is the way it is how will i ever get her to come and know my family first. But yet again i am able to understand her rationale behind her and he family thoughts. They want some sort of a promise before allow things to progress. Again, not the way we handle things here in Singapore.
6 months in indeed short. I hope that I make a wise choice. Breaking her heart if things do not fall thru, is also something that i would want to prevent too.
Dilemma truly. But i need to keep my head clear.
Regards
I really dont understand why nowadays sg man so scare of breaking vb hearts.U only know her for 6 months,why u worry so much.Let me tell u something,in fact vietnamese heart is more 'tougher' than us.Not to scare you but if u continue like that,then i am afraid if u really marry,then i dont think you will last.Be a MAN and dont be too soft.Let girl look up to you and not let girl think u can be 'eaten' easily
Most viet countryside gals will prefer marriage with a foreigner FAST, a few months after meeting him. (of course, there are some bros who will want to state his experience is different.. hihihi) Their countryside culture is MARRY first, know each other better after marriage. This will depend on whether you want to take this risk, but the gal, being so young, will be very risky. Countryside gals consider themselves ready for marriage around 18 years old, by 24, they are considered old roi. The risk is there and whether you want to take the plunge and try it out is entirely up to you. For me, i will not dare to try as the risk factor is too high due to the tender age of the gal.
I know surely got bro will say that,so u are the first one
U think she got chance to talk on the phone,hand and leg tie on the bed frame,so u think got chance haha
Most viet countryside gals will prefer marriage with a foreigner FAST, a few months after meeting him. (of course, there are some bros who will want to state his experience is different.. hihihi) Their countryside culture is MARRY first, know each other better after marriage. This will depend on whether you want to take this risk, but the gal, being so young, will be very risky. Countryside gals consider themselves ready for marriage around 18 years old, by 24, they are considered old roi. The risk is there and whether you want to take the plunge and try it out is entirely up to you. For me, i will not dare to try as the risk factor is too high due to the tender age of the gal.
I think for transilink sales staff dun need high edu, prob O level nah n must be PR/Local, So most prob she married liao la..
Which station, bring my wife there to inspire her..
So it puts me in a catch 22 situation. If this is the way it is how will i ever get her to come and know my family first. But yet again i am able to understand her rationale behind her and he family thoughts. They want some sort of a promise before allow things to progress. Again, not the way we handle things here in Singapore.
6 months in indeed short. I hope that I make a wise choice. Breaking her heart if things do not fall thru, is also something that i would want to prevent too.
Dilemma truly. But i need to keep my head clear.
Regards
I agreed with Bro Hurricane say. When the gals are too young, they dont understand the us deeply. As recently, I'm one live example. 2yrs ago, I had married a young VB in VN which I know for 2 years +++. After married in VN, her character change. She keep pestering in my work and my friends and even some friends in my facebook. She love me a lot but she didn't respect me. Due to her behavior our relation turn bad and last year, I meet someone which is in her late 20s. She is more understanding and I had more freedom. I began to fall for her and now, I broke off with my BX. A lot of her friends talk bad behind me but I not afraid as they do not know what had happen between me and her. Now, I just wish I could quickly solve my problems in Singapore 1st, and marry my current gf but mid of 2013. Out of so many VB i had previously, she is the best which I can find. No temper at all but I do not know whether her character will change after I married her
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I agreed with Bro Hurricane say. When the gals are too young, they dont understand the us deeply. As recently, I'm one live example. 2yrs ago, I had married a young VB in VN which I know for 2 years +++. After married in VN, her character change. She keep pestering in my work and my friends and even some friends in my facebook. She love me a lot but she didn't respect me. Due to her behavior our relation turn bad and last year, I meet someone which is in her late 20s. She is more understanding and I had more freedom. I began to fall for her and now, I broke off with my BX. A lot of her friends talk bad behind me but I not afraid as they do not know what had happen between me and her. Now, I just wish I could quickly solve my problems in Singapore 1st, and marry my current gf but mid of 2013. Out of so many VB i had previously, she is the best which I can find. No temper at all but I do not know whether her character will change after I married her
I really dont understand why nowadays sg man so scare of breaking vb hearts.U only know her for 6 months,why u worry so much.Let me tell u something,in fact vietnamese heart is more 'tougher' than us.Not to scare you but if u continue like that,then i am afraid if u really marry,then i dont think you will last.Be a MAN and dont be too soft.Let girl look up to you and not let girl think u can be 'eaten' easily
reason is because they dun understand how tough a VB can be...i had met so many of them...all claimed to love me...but when they wanted something...they will threaten to break if they dun get their way....anyway, I am also very tough...to me VB asked to break off and not me...so I had reasons to find new one...
all came back after a week to 3 months to ask for reconcile but I just told them they are many choices in Vietnam...
I also heard too many from my friends in hcm...all had similar experiences...
VB dun submit to weakness...they bow to tough guys and not wippy boys...
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VB dun submit to weakness...they bow to tough guys and not wippy boys...
You are absolutely right. They are 吃硬不吃軟。
You give in, they will ask for more and more. Never ending.
If possible make them understand. Those that cannot understand you have to play tough.
give and take. Those ridiculous demands, its either my way or the highway.
9 out of 10 will come back and say sorry. Unless they found another sucker which if they dun come back, is another blessing by itself
It will make life easier for you and bring down your blood pressure.
Haha, indeed i have learnt my mistakes, even she is not a WL. Also cannot trust so easily. Their life is tougher and more complicated than our life in singapore. If they want to play the hard way just let them be, look at those VBs their ong xa abuse them, they still put up with them. Because never propose after dating for 6 months then want break up ??? haha it seem there is more than the meet of eye. Now, thai girl or Viet girls i trust 50%, if is WL trust 10% only!
02-11-2012, 09:51 PM
Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
