Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[technofreak]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro , Bro. This is normal. When i married my wife, her mother says she wants to built a house in the province. Not knowing the market price of such a house in the province then, i easily give in to her demand of US$6000. After that, she told me again that my wife needs gold for the wedding dinner and took another US$2000 from me.

Guess what? After that, i realised that the house only cost US$2000 and the she pocketed US$4000 . Further to that, she took all the gold from the wedding and sold it off for another nearly US$2000 after the wedding. KNNB. She pocketed nearly US$6000 from the wedding alone. After the wedding, she says she wants me to give US$300 a month for the family, but i told her its impossible. During that time, my wife still blurr in Vietnam. Everything was for her family. My wife and i argued a lot and almost divorced. But i endured and later brought my wife back to Singapore. My wife now understand well that her mother doesn't dote on her, just use her as money making machine. Nowadays, i happy then i give her US$100. My wife also only call home like once a month or once in 2 months.

Once your wife understands the situation, your life will be good. It took me nearly 3 years to let my wife understand.

Good for u bro...At least ur wife saw the light at the end of the tunnel. For me, I'm still in the process of changing her mindset. Wanna brainwash her into thinking that her family is a burden to ours (which in fact is!!). All her brothers are good-for-nothings!! Alcoholics, gamblers n wife-beaters etc...

Originally Posted by JediSkull

looking at the Hoang Thuy Linh SEX TAPE!~!~ I can only feel that the viet guys there sucks!

and worse still is the fact tat loser in the sex tape cannot provide good service for the lady!~!~ she could have find some of our bros here to service her!!! we could have done a much better job!!!

Yes that's right!! She could even be better off kena "Pai Loti" by bros of SBF n have "Bukakke" milkshake till she song song kao jurong...

[Honey Boon]

In my last trip to HCMC... I saw for myself...

walao... all the coffeeshop full of men even though in the day time during weekdays. I asked myself... these men no need to work meh?

Originally Posted by carmeo88

Agreed that the young men there just pass their time playing cards when I was there in April for attachment. Sometimes, the guy who rear a fighting cock will meet challenge from another distict and they will lay bet on the one that wins. Once the fighter cock loses the match, they will cook it and goes togther with their drinking session at night.

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

In my last trip to HCMC... I saw for myself...

walao... all the coffeeshop full of men even though in the day time during weekdays. I asked myself... these men no need to work meh?

I come across during my few trips to HCMC majority of the men will start to drink beer in the morning at the so call beer garden and start to tease the beer promoters. anyway the beer promoters r not interest at all.

If u r a foreigner than it is a different story, the promoters will give u chance. Becos 'Robert' or ' Golden tortises' r coming.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by technofreak

Good for u bro...At least ur wife saw the light at the end of the tunnel. For me, I'm still in the process of changing her mindset. Wanna brainwash her into thinking that her family is a burden to ours (which in fact is!!). All her brothers are good-for-nothings!! Alcoholics, gamblers n wife-beaters etc...

Bro technofreak, you can continue brainwashing your gf but its really need herself to notice what is wrong with her family. Anyway don'y give up brainwashing her.. it will be good for everyone. Bro SingViet is a good example

From the start, I already brainwash my bx that I am a salaried worker and living in Sillypore is high cost. I cannot afford to give her monthly allowance. She readily accept it and never ask for money from me. Even if her friends need money and tell her to ask me for money to help them, she tell them straight in the face that I got no money.

Lucky for me that I don't need to brainwash her to tell her that her family is a burden to her... she tells me that instead. She now move out and stayed alone in a rented room. She do not want her family and friends to bother her too much (financially). But she still care alot for her mum. She is working in small shop selling clothes and earn little. Her brother-in-law and friends who stayed with her had been asking her to work in massage parlour so that she can earn more money to help out the household. She is strong and not influence by them. Sometimes she tells me that she cares alot for everyone in the house but she do not feel that they return the favour but still take advantage of her.. she is tired.

Other than the brother-in-law (jobless) and friends, her brothers and sisters are alright and are not lazy type and they do have a job. I do not know if it is because of the religion (Catholic) they are in.

I am just quoting example that there are still good VN gals.... even in JC.

Bros who falls for VN gal in JC.... you have to be patient and put in time to observe 1st before plunging in.

With the help of bro Sha_Gua75 and SingViet at the initial stage, and concern shown by bro chanyboy, I am able to hold back my feeling to observe and test the situation. I am happy with the result so far.... thanks

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Even if her friends need money and tell her to ask me for money to help them, she tell them straight in the face that I got no money.

All u guys remind me of my very first trip to HCMC. A fond n sad memory.

Anyway, I encountered these, bro in law wanted beer, sis in law openly asked me for money to buy beer. Lan lan gave her money, she took the money n asked for more, said need to buy tit bits. Time to go back hotel, bro in law offered to send us back with his bike n sis in law openly told me to give him some money as tips. Told her, last night in HCMC not much viet dong left. She said can go n change money or withdraw from ATM, NNKC.

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

I come across during my few trips to HCMC majority of the men will start to drink beer in the morning at the so call beer garden and start to tease the beer promoters. anyway the beer promoters r not interest at all.

If u r a foreigner than it is a different story, the promoters will give u chance. Becos 'Robert' or ' Golden tortises' r coming.

Beer in the morning is child play. In the countryside, early morning already starts to drink rice wine; no need to brush teeth. The rice wine as an antiseptic mouthwash.

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by naemlo

All u guys remind me of my very first trip to HCMC. A fond n sad memory.

Anyway, I encountered these, bro in law wanted beer, sis in law openly asked me for money to buy beer. Lan lan gave her money, she took the money n asked for more, said need to buy tit bits. Time to go back hotel, bro in law offered to send us back with his bike n sis in law openly told me to give him some money as tips. Told her, last night in HCMC not much viet dong left. She said can go n change money or withdraw from ATM, NNKC.

"Show me the money"..in-laws

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

With the help of bro Sha_Gua75 and SingViet at the initial stage, and concern shown by bro chanyboy, I am able to hold back my feeling to observe and test the situation. I am happy with the result so far.... thanks

I never do anything for you yet leh

[chanyboy]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

...
I am just quoting example that there are still good VN gals.... even in JC.

Bros who falls for VN gal in JC.... you have to be patient and put in time to observe 1st before plunging in.

With the help of bros ... I am able to hold back my feeling to observe and test the situation. I am happy with the result so far.... thanks

I agreed with that 2nd stmt indeed if one finds worthy Vn-ger. Successful relationship does take time (and both parties accept it, give-in, tolerate).... many more months to go the way successful bros are. Do enjoy the sweet months once u are into 1st gear...

Lately another bro is crazy over one too, sharing assessment with him provided some sanity check before committing.

There are some bros very helpful (a few just sent -ve pt with no apparent logical reason). Well,then it's better to meet up & chit-chat among well meaning bros, bros sharing same interests (e.g. gathering with CP groups, posting pixs), travel together to learn (culture, behavior, language, differentiating WL & good ones) - of course at the same time enjoy life a little more oversea (cheaper & more happening!).

[technofreak]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Bro technofreak, you can continue brainwashing your gf but its really need herself to notice what is wrong with her family. Anyway don'y give up brainwashing her.. it will be good for everyone. Bro SingViet is a good example.

From the start, I already brainwash my bx that I am a salaried worker and living in Sillypore is high cost. I cannot afford to give her monthly allowance. She readily accept it and never ask for money from me. Even if her friends need money and tell her to ask me for money to help them, she tell them straight in the face that I got no money.

Lucky for me that I don't need to brainwash her to tell her that her family is a burden to her... she tells me that instead. She now move out and stayed alone in a rented room. She do not want her family and friends to bother her too much (financially). But she still care alot for her mum. She is working in small shop selling clothes and earn little. Her brother-in-law and friends who stayed with her had been asking her to work in massage parlour so that she can earn more money to help out the household. She is strong and not influence by them. Sometimes she tells me that she cares alot for everyone in the house but she do not feel that they return the favour but still take advantage of her.. she is tired.

Other than the brother-in-law (jobless) and friends, her brothers and sisters are alright and are not lazy type and they do have a job. I do not know if it is because of the religion (Catholic) they are in.

Bro KT,

Appreciate your views on this topic. But u mentioned her friends ask her for $$ from u?? WTF?? Then u ask them if there's a need to satisfy your carnal thirst should they return the favour?

I do agree that these Vietnamese gals really do care n r filial to their parents. Anyway, who doesn't if he/she has a conscience rite? But to me, it should be deemed sufficient enough just to take care of the basic needs of their family. Any other than that should be considered bonus liao. That's why in the beginning, one should not indulge these people in a lifestyle of luxury.

That's y presently, I told my bx not to send so much money home monthly. SGD300 is more than sufficient for a family of 4-5. From my perception of these "blinded by greed" Vietnamese, the more u give them, the more they splurge on useless things. Some even turn to gambling n lottery. I've been thru all these shit of giving them $$ when the roof is leaking lah, paying off debts lah etc...N all these problems arise because of this "newfound wealth".

FYI, I'm eveready just to give that damn old witch a thrashing if she ever step on my tail again. That's y i have learnt quite a lot of Viet vulgar words just to keep it handy.


Pui chao nua,
Techno

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by technofreak

That's y presently, I told my bx not to send so much money home monthly. SGD300 is more than sufficient for a family of 4-5.

300SGD only?? U sure???? HMM I need to consider my deal with my ger....

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by naemlo

300SGD only?? U sure???? HMM I need to consider my deal with my ger....

If your ger is from the province, SGD$150 is enuff for the family of around 5 to 6 people. many families in the province only has less than 1 million VND a month for expenses. Don't be con by their demand of a few hundred. SGD$150 a month for them is already luxury

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by SingViet

If your ger is from the , SGD$150 is enuff for the family of around 5 to 6 people. many families in the province only has less than 1 million VND a month for expenses. Don't be con by their demand of a few hundred. SGD$150 a month for them is already luxury

R can tho, vinh long and long xuyen consider as province

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

R can tho, vinh long and long xuyen consider as province

yes, the places you mentioned are considered as provinces.

[jackbl]

Hi Techno,

How about posting all those vulgar words in the Tieng Viet lovers thread?

Originally Posted by technofreak

FYI, I'm eveready just to give that damn old witch a thrashing if she ever step on my tail again. That's y i have learnt quite a lot of Viet vulgar words just to keep it handy.
Pui chao nua,
Techno