Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by damong777

Bro Curious: Learn to let go and find a new gal in your life. Continued bitterness on it does not help. Trust me i been through what you went through and it took time to heal. Look where i am now. Learnt to be smarter and know what i want. If i cannot find, then change a new gal. Just an advice.

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[devilcheong]

Originally Posted by damong777

Honestly every gal would want to help the family to have a better live and themselves also a better life. If cannot find in native country, got foreigner to marry why not? Similarly, would you want the best for your family?

If you read the 1000 of pages before hand, family culture is strong in vn where bf or husband rank 3rd or last place depending on how many siblings they have. That is unless what some bro have done, "re-educate" their wives to a more rational or Singaporean way of thinking.

As to faithfulness or not, it is dependent on the nature of relationship one have in the first place and where it started. If it started in a ktv or disco, it start on the ground of $$$ chances of a good foundation is not there. Simple reason is just built on $$$. If you met the gal in a cafe in vn, then it could be again different. And slowly build the relationship up.

Before we condemn all vb for being unfaithful, can we be faithful first? If not, who are we to say they are not faithful. That why i say the question it depends on what you want from relationship and your commitment from it.

Bro Curious: Learn to let go and find a new gal in your life. Continued bitterness on it does not help. Trust me i been through what you went through and it took time to heal. Look where i am now. Learnt to be smarter and know what i want. If i cannot find, then change a new gal. Just an advice.

Very good advice Bro D777! Bro Curios only manage to experience 1 VB and the impact can make you so unforgettable and kept hanging to her.. how are u going to manage more VB in future to come if you still want to choose a VB partner?! Learn to let go and find until u get a suitable 1.. Don't force yourself to accept bad apple's.. there is a jungle of apple farm out there waiting for you to choose if you are sincere!

[xiaoqiang]

Originally Posted by damong777

Honestly every gal would want to help the family to have a better live and themselves also a better life. If cannot find in native country, got foreigner to marry why not? Similarly, would you want the best for your family?

If you read the 1000 of pages before hand, family culture is strong in vn where bf or husband rank 3rd or last place depending on how many siblings they have. That is unless what some bro have done, "re-educate" their wives to a more rational or Singaporean way of thinking.

As to faithfulness or not, it is dependent on the nature of relationship one have in the first place and where it started. If it started in a ktv or disco, it start on the ground of $$$ chances of a good foundation is not there. Simple reason is just built on $$$. If you met the gal in a cafe in vn, then it could be again different. And slowly build the relationship up.

Before we condemn all vb for being unfaithful, can we be faithful first? If not, who are we to say they are not faithful. That why i say the question it depends on what you want from relationship and your commitment from it.

Bro Curious: Learn to let go and find a new gal in your life. Continued bitterness on it does not help. Trust me i been through what you went through and it took time to heal. Look where i am now. Learnt to be smarter and know what i want. If i cannot find, then change a new gal. Just an advice.

I like the word re-educate

[curious76]

Originally Posted by damong777

Bro Curious: Learn to let go and find a new gal in your life. Continued bitterness on it does not help. Trust me i been through what you went through and it took time to heal. Look where i am now. Learnt to be smarter and know what i want. If i cannot find, then change a new gal. Just an advice.

Yes.. I understand to let her go.. As you say it takes time.

[Hurricane88]

why devilcheong and xiaoqiang need to quote the whole post...simply wasting bandwidth and space...haizzzz...

[damong777]

Originally Posted by curious76

Yes.. I understand to let her go.. As you say it takes time.

Dun think so much of what have happened; just treat it as growing up or maturing. Find a hobby or focus on career. For time being, dun go drinking as only will make things worse

[damong777]

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

I like the word re-educate

Really true ma...re-educate as their thinking are of their culture and upbringing unsuitable for life in singapore. THey expect their ox to support whole family including extended family.

My current ban gai has been scolded over last 2 months that she need to budget for expenses and not just rely on me. Keep overspending buying clothes going out for fun etc. What if we break off? And with her previous pay of 6 Million dong, how did she survive? At least she is more sensible now and had listened. Cut down on unnecessary expenses. I think they have no sense of budgeting and only live for current not for future. Another ban gai under consideration is also being whacked on spending money like water. No wonder those especially came to Sg and Malaysia worked have many bfs.

Case in note, there have 3 to 5 gals which i knew worked in sg or malaysia have numerous bf local and end up marrying their vn bf. I wonder does the vn bf know where the money for the wedding came from.

[volcano]

Originally Posted by damong777

THey expect their ox to support whole family including extended family.

i dont agree for this statement,not all VBs expect it

[curious76]

Originally Posted by damong777

Case in note, there have 3 to 5 gals which i knew worked in sg or malaysia have numerous bf local and end up marrying their vn bf. I wonder does the vn bf know where the money for the wedding came from.

Let me tell you my story. I am not sure if many vietbus understand family values at all. Mine did not.

Why? Because she get involved herself with a family man in Vietnam. If a person understand family values. She should not have an affair with a married man. I know that she did this is not because of money because she have me as a financial support at that time.

I am lucky to know about this so early. But the evilness of her action can never wash away my sin and guilt.

Why?? She using my money for her bf to open a shop/resturant in his hometown. And her bf is stupid enough still stick with her. For this, I feel guilty.

Recently, there is a case of ken ong and karen koh. I just hope that it will not be the same case for them.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by curious76

Let me tell you my story. I am not sure if many vietbus understand family values at all. Mine did not.
Why? Because she get involved herself with a family man in Vietnam. If a person understand family values. She should not have an affair with a married man. I know that she did this is not because of money because she have me as a financial support at that time.

wow...more cat out of the bag...

young man...let me tell you...in Vietnam sleeping here and there or bonking is so common and nothing at all...you expect the VBs or men to feel guilty or what family values...come on wake up and go visit Vietnam more...

you cannot blame all the VBs, the Viet men prides themselves to bonk almost every gals they know...so what if they are married...

but on the other hand...there are good family who still values customary ethics and family values...so you need to find them...

[curious76]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

wow...more cat out of the bag...

young man...let me tell you...in Vietnam sleeping here and there or bonking is so common and nothing at all...you expect the VBs or men to feel guilty or what family values...come on wake up and go visit Vietnam more...

you cannot blame all the VBs, the Viet men prides themselves to bonk almost every gals they know...so what if they are married...

Yeah.. Thank you for washing my guilt away..

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by curious76

Yeah.. Thank you for washing my guilt away..

share another real story...just recent...

a VB who had been to sinkieland a few times brought her 16yr old younger sister to work...imagine such young age she had no qualms to know strangers or even have sex...of course she is under-age and no men dare to touch her except those prepared to go to jail...

even the regular landlords dun want to let the 16 yr old stay in thier houses...the landlords worried she go round having sex and get into trouble...surely landlord houses will be affected...

do you know how many below 17 yrs old sssyt are coming of age...some are very naive and decent gals...I was in Damsen Park last Sep 2014...was a Saturday and the park is full of students...many are well developed with right curves in school uniform or school T-shirts...think easily 10k students inside...majority are gals...

[curious76]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

share another real story...just recent...

a VB who had been to sinkieland a few times brought her 16yr old younger sister to work...imagine such young age she had no qualms to know strangers or even have sex...of course she is under-age and no men dare to touch her except those prepared to go to jail...

even the regular landlords dun want to let the 16 yr old stay in thier houses...the landlords worried she go round having sex and get into trouble...surely landlord houses will be affected...

do you know how many below 17 yrs old sssyt are coming of age...some are very naive and decent gals...I was in Damsen Park last Sep 2014...was a Saturday and the park is full of students...many are well developed with right curves in school uniform or school T-shirts...think easily 10k students inside...majority are gals...

I know she start working in a club at 16 years old in vietnam

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by curious76

I know she start working in a club at 16 years old in vietnam

why must you quote my whole post...haizzzz...

[FireShark]

Originally Posted by damong777

My current ban gai has been scolded over last 2 months that she need to budget for expenses and not just rely on me. Keep overspending buying clothes going out for fun etc. What if we break off? And with her previous pay of 6 Million dong, how did she survive? At least she is more sensible now and had listened. Cut down on unnecessary expenses. I think they have no sense of budgeting and only live for current not for future. Another ban gai under consideration is also being whacked on spending money like water. No wonder those especially came to Sg and Malaysia worked have many bfs.

Case in note, there have 3 to 5 gals which i knew worked in sg or malaysia have numerous bf local and end up marrying their vn bf. I wonder does the vn bf know where the money for the wedding came from.

Agreed with you, 60% vb had not financial planning. They spend as they want until they know that they had not much left. I do know some who planned.

As for their bf, I believe most of their bf know that they come to Singapore and work but work as what, I think they might not know. If they know, I think most of them don't mind.