Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[chanyboy]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

...expectations with their boyfriends esp FOREIGN BOYFRIENDS.....
...To them, their expectations are "their daughters and their son-in laws MUST support the entire family ..."

Originally Posted by vlover

...'Viet girls are well known for taking care of their husband and baby but when it comes to priority, it will be her baby 1st before her family before husband.. further down the pecking line..

alamak...like that scary, man. For ex-WL, it wud be:

- baby (boy!?)
- her family
- her relatives
- all her outside WL-contacts
- her frens
Last : hubby

..hubby so pathetic?

..no one comes after the hubby - the person who provides for everything? Something boh right it seems... (maybe, hubby's family/relatives, frens are the ultimate last - jialat like that)... Marry M'sia kampung ger may be more dedicated...or maybe not marry, better - always 'ongxa is #1'... becos after spending a fortune & struggling with all the paperwork to get married, 'ongxa become last'.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by chanyboy

alamak...like that scary, man. For ex-WL, it wud be:

- baby (boy!?)
- her family
- her relatives
- all her outside WL-contacts
- her frens
Last : hubby

..hubby so pathetic?

not really lah.. it really depends on how the gal think. my g/f got 2 elder sister who are married and got hubby, an elder sister practicing 'nun-hood' and staying in a church. a younger brother who is married, a youngest brother who is still studying.

I asked her why she seems the only 1 worrying for her family and youngest brother. she told me that her sisters are married, got hubby and children, so they only have to worry for their own family. 1 younger brother is supported by a cousin in USA. So she is the only one left to worry for bothers education. She say next time come sillypore, she will only worry for me and children as her bro should finish school and start to earn money to worry for parents. Hope its true... than i dun need to support her whole family.

[ekemono]

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[technofreak]

Originally Posted by SingViet

It takes time to learn about the viet culture. Even after many years, i am still learning today. Every viet gal is different, but there are certain social norms among them that's the same.

Hi Bro SV, maybe can share what's the social norms which are found in them?

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Bros who had Viet girlfriends should know that Viet pple had a different culture than us... To them, their expectations are "their daughters and their son-in laws MUST support the entire family while their sons will waste their life away".

The key thing here is "education"...I always tell my bx that nothing is more important than our own family. If she puts her family beforehand, she WILL get it from me!!

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by ekemono

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[ekemono]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

The file seems to be deleted liao....cannot download....

Looks like so. I will upload again this evening. Apology

[badzman]

i can download leh....downloading

[v.killers]

Originally Posted by vlover

Agreed.. Maybe one of the solution is to have a baby.. then the sentence will change to become 'Viet girls are well known for taking care of their husband and baby but when it comes to priority, it will be her baby 1st before her family before husband.. further down the pecking line..

Regards,
vlover

So when are you getting married? You gals treat you so good, faster go to her countryside "lam tinh" and give a babe to her... Later you can tell us how the solution is right or wrong !!! ^_^

[v.killers]

Originally Posted by technofreak

[COLOR="Blue"]The key thing here is "education"...I always tell my bx that nothing is more important than our own family. If she puts her family beforehand, she WILL get it from me!!

Wowowow!! you sound fierce after marriage leh

[X_plorer]

Originally Posted by casannova03

bro, you made the choice back then because you love her no??

these are all problems that comes with the package man. I think i mentioned somewhere earlier in this thread that EDUCATION is the key to sending less money..

It does not make sense to your wife that how come you were able to send XX amount of money then but now you wanna cut down suddenly. this will lead to quarrel...confirmed!!! i've been thru that...

BUT, this can be resolved...remember your wife chose you also because she loved you.. slowly talk to her and make her see the big 'picture'...that her family have to be able to fend for themselves even without your help! that your contributions shoul be treated as a bonus for buying new clothes and other luxuries...

what i said to convince my wife : " you know darling, life is so unpredictable now.. look at the newspaper report..healthy people are dying for no reasons...this is frightening..I have been thinking you should let your family realise that they cannot depend on us forever for their basic needs...what if one day something unexpected happens to the both of us?? Your family is going to suffer!! "

she got my meaning....

Hey Bro, this is cool, would tried tonite..

I've tried methods like, for the economy now, my income had dropped a lot.. And have ask her that if 1 day I cannot give her family next year if i still cannot earn, then how? Able to stop giving? But she replies that she will go and work and give them.. Still a bit hard to educate her her, but would try your method and see will works or not..

[jackbl]

Hi all, the link is still OK. Maybe 1st time u download u may encounter error message that the file does not exist. Try to download again. It will go thru. I have d/l it. If u cant d/l, i will also help to u/p for all ppl here to use

Originally Posted by ekemono

Looks like so. I will upload again this evening. Apology

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Hi all, the link is still OK. Maybe 1st time u download u may encounter error message that the file does not exist. Try to download again. It will go thru. I have d/l it. If u cant d/l, i will also help to u/p for all ppl here to use

thanks bro.

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by ekemono

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Learning Vietnamese language in audiotape (MP3 actually)
10 lessons with each lesson consisting of 25 mins audio
beginner level

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[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by X_plorer

Hey Bro, this is cool, would tried tonite..

I've tried methods like, for the economy now, my income had dropped a lot.. And have ask her that if 1 day I cannot give her family next year if i still cannot earn, then how? Able to stop giving? But she replies that she will go and work and give them.. Still a bit hard to educate her her, but would try your method and see will works or not..

Still a long way to change their concept. They had been brought up in a way "her parents are the most important beings on earth", it is not going to change them easily esp if her family got many MOUTHs to depend on her.

Worse still, if you cannot support her, she go outside work and KC some other men... how? More headaches for you...

The only way is to Make sure you tell her your expectations for her and also your help to her family can only be this much on a monthly basic. And She should know how much you can afford out from yor payslip. However despite of all these "EDUCATIONS", there will be times whereby her family will still ask her for this n that...No Choice.. U marry a Viet girl = U marry her entire clan!!

[adonis]

Hi hjy 19, I find it nearly unbelievable dat your Vietnamese gfren's two bros need S$500 ea per mth for their studies. Then there're all those other $$$ her family needs u to remit to them in Vietnam. Sounds like Singaporean Chi. girls for all their nonsense are comparatively cheaper.

I don't have a Vietnamese wife. I'm a local Chi. man. I passed by a marriage agency in the Golden Mile Shopping Cent. I asked 1 of the men working in there what's the minimum amount of $$$ I gotta give a Vietnames wife per mth. He replied S$300 over to $400.

My fren told me dat he has colleagues who married Vietnamese wives. The latter threaten to bring their children back to Vietnam forever when they have bad quarrels. He has another colleague "A". "A" married a Vietnamese wife. His wife carried a luxury handbag. "A" asked her who gave her dat bag. She answered a gfren. Another colleague told "A" dat he saw "A"'s Vietnamese wife moonlighting in a Joo Chiat KTV. "A" confronted his wife. His wife told "A" dat a man customer gave her the handbag. She said dat she wasn't getting enuff $$$ from "A" so she's moonlighting in Joo Chiat.

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