Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[joob]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Truly admire your "open minded"

Oh I don't mean she getting pregnant by other guys. I meant by me. We are like trying to save up now and would like to get married at the end of the year. She has her family problems, so, she will settle it herself. As for her job, well, she always uses protection. I do believe her. Of course it never feel good for me whenever I know she goes out with that guy, but it's her job.

Anyway, ask you guys, if a working gal say she loves you, but still wants you to give her money after every sex session, would you still believe her? Anyway, it's not me. Just asking around.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by joob

Of course it never feel good for me whenever I know she goes out with that guy, but it's her job.

Again admire u for this.

Originally Posted by joob

Anyway, ask you guys, if a working gal say she loves you, but still wants you to give her money after every sex session, would you still believe her? Anyway, it's not me. Just asking around.

She says this to every guys...

[joob]

oh ya, heard from the news, the highest percentage increase of tourist arrival to singapore are the vietnamese! Wonder if the figures are accurate. Might have more gals coming here to work then real tourist coming here to spend.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by joob

Oh I don't mean she getting pregnant by other guys. I meant by me. We are like trying to save up now and would like to get married at the end of the year. She has her family problems, so, she will settle it herself. As for her job, well, she always uses protection. I do believe her. Of course it never feel good for me whenever I know she goes out with that guy, but it's her job.

Anyway, ask you guys, if a working gal say she loves you, but still wants you to give her money after every sex session, would you still believe her? Anyway, it's not me. Just asking around.

bro, if you really want to settle down with her, you should ask her to quit her trade and support her. Talk to her about her family problem and how much support you can give each month. If she has to settle her own family financial problem now, then even when she gets married, she has to continue to work to settle her family problems.

The reasons why singaporeans look down on vietnamese are plentiful, and one of it is the inability of singaporean man to support their vietnamese spouse and their spouse have to continue to work as WL to support herself. Vietnamese ladies need support from their foreign husbands, if they need to continue to work as WL even after going `steady' with their foreign guy, then the probability of this relationship breaking down is very very high.

Just my 2000 dong worth ....

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

bro, if you really want to settle down with her, you should ask her to quit her trade and support her. Talk to her about her family problem and how much support you can give each month. If she has to settle her own family financial problem now, then even when she gets married, she has to continue to work to settle her family problems.

The reasons why singaporeans look down on vietnamese are plentiful, and one of it is the inability of singaporean man to support their vietnamese spouse and their spouse have to continue to work as WL to support herself. Vietnamese ladies need support from their foreign husbands, if they need to continue to work as WL even after going `steady' with their foreign guy, then the probability of this relationship breaking down is very very high.

Just my 2000 dong worth ....

Exactly wat i wan to say but TS said it liao... Cheers.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

i ever spot checked one room upon the invitation of one girl ....

4 double decker beds, meaning 8 persons in one small room with those 1-horse power air-cond.

$10 X 1 girl X 30 days = $300 X 8 girls = $2400 per month per room.

that house got a few rooms .... good income man ....

I saw 1 unit above shophouses along JC fetch even better income.
There are 3 rooms, but manage to see 2 rooms.
1 room 12 DD beds, 1 room 8 DD beds

$10 x 1 girl x 30 days x 20 girls = $6000 per mth (only 2 rooms)

Originally Posted by ekemono

Some of you who are hook up with JC gals long enough would have heard cases of theft of money and handphone among the room mates.

hear many many stories lor...

Originally Posted by ekemono

Gals who had been in the trade long enough and comtemplating retirement cos of competition from young gals will throw out 2 fish line; one to hook money, one to hook people.

Young girls also throw 2 lines.
I always take the 'people' biat

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by joob

As for her job, well, she always uses protection. I do believe her. Of course it never feel good for me whenever I know she goes out with that guy, but it's her job.

I also admire for your open mindedness to let people whack your girlfriend / wife-to-be.

Sorry if I am blunt. You never feel good because the guy can provide her with $$$. You cannot. I would say that her family problem is $$$. Even if you marry her at the end of this year but you still cannot provide the $$$ to her family need, she will still work. Maybe eventually she go with the '$$$' guy.

How can you be 100% sure she uses protection? $$$ works wonders.
Issit only this guy give $$$ and whack her hole? or her hole kana whack by many other guys per night?
The world is small, so is sillypore. Have you thought of what happen if she got to know and slept with some relative of yours in the pub.

Try not to cheat yourself... THINK CAREFULLY

Originally Posted by joob

Anyway, ask you guys, if a working gal say she loves you, but still wants you to give her money after every sex session, would you still believe her? Anyway, it's not me. Just asking around.

A working lady say 'i love you' to all her customers.
Asking $ after every sex session? I only know PROSTITUTE do that...

I feel that this girl love $$$, need money, she is attacking the weakness of the guys. She just make use of sex to make the guys happy... once the guys are happy, small brain take over big brain. How much also give.


Truely, I would like to know how you feel when your girlfriend / wife-to-be goes out working? What is your thought?

I met and whacked few gals with boyfriend/fiancee/husband before, whack them few times. No $ invovlement. 1 of them even say to make it a monthly affair. (Of course whack them w/o the knowledge that they are attached, once I know, I runaway)

some reasons given by these girls:
1) boyfriend dunno how to make her high.
2) boyfriend dun have sex with her often.
3) fiancee/husband too busy working, no time to accompany her.
4) fiancee/husband earn too little, not enuff money to support her.
5) fiancee/husband earn $3K amonth but give alot to his parents. No money to give her.

[David_Villa]

Originally Posted by SingViet

The reasons why singaporeans look down on vietnamese are plentiful, and one of it is the inability of singaporean man to support their vietnamese spouse and their spouse have to continue to work as WL to support herself.
Just my 2000 dong worth ....

What Bro Singviet said is very correct. I personally hv come across many singaporean men whom married viet r unable to provide them with basic needs.

The majority of these singapore men r of low income group (majority r gangster, bookie, odd job labourer).

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by David_Villa

What Bro Singviet said is very correct. I personally hv come across many singaporean men whom married viet r unable to provide them with basic needs.

The majority of these singapore men r of low income group (majority r gangster, bookie, odd job labourer).

These gals made the wrong choice or had other motives to marry these group of sin men. Maybe they just wan to live here and one day hold the sin passport.

[joob]

[QUOTE=KangTuo;3536503]I also admire for your open mindedness to let people whack your girlfriend / wife-to-be.

Sorry if I am blunt. You never feel good because the guy can provide her with $$$. You cannot. I would say that her family problem is $$$. Even if you marry her at the end of this year but you still cannot provide the $$$ to her family need, she will still work. Maybe eventually she go with the '$$$' guy.

How can you be 100% sure she uses protection? $$$ works wonders.
Issit only this guy give $$$ and whack her hole? or her hole kana whack by many other guys per night?
The world is small, so is sillypore. Have you thought of what happen if she got to know and slept with some relative of yours in the pub.

Try not to cheat yourself... THINK CAREFULLY



A working lady say 'i love you' to all her customers.
Asking $ after every sex session? I only know PROSTITUTE do that...



Truely, I would like to know how you feel when your girlfriend / wife-to-be goes out working? What is your thought? QUOTE]

Hey bro Kangtuo,

Thanks for your kind words. I truely appreciate what you are telling me. It never felt good to know that she has to go out with customers at night. Never felt good. Everytime the other guy called, i have to keep quiet. But then, she always put him on speaker and makes me listen to what the guy has to say and it's really boring. Everytime the guy sms her, she makes me help her to reply. This is indeed very weird.

That is why I have decided to talk to her about it. To marry her is easy, but then, to support her is not going to be that easy. I have since taken up giving tuition to ramp up my earnings. Hopefully I can earn 1K more per month from now.

I tried to finish the relationship with her once but she cried so much that my heart went soft again. I've not given her alot of money (around $3000), and she had seen my parents already. We always spend the night at my place now, cutting down on the expensive overnight hotel trips. Hopefully she can take what I'm going to tell her, cause the last time we had a conversation like that, it caused her alot of stress. So much that she grinds her teeth at night when she sleeps.

I can forget her past and her present job disturbs me. Been causing me alot of stress too. She's not perfect, but she is indeed good to me. Thanks for reading!

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by chong_kng

Hi to all seasoned bro, first of all i would like to say 'Thank You' to all of to for offerring valuables insights of Vietnamese Life Partner.

Can I do that?
Is there other possible solutions?
Seems that u all dont face any housing problems as most of u have already has a house.
My intention is to buy a house before end of tis year.

Hope senior bros can offer valuable suggestions . I sincerely thanks you in advance.

Yes you are right! You cannot purchase a flat on your own if you are under 35 years of age.

However, once you ROM with your gf, you can purchase a flat from the open market under the Non-Citizen spouse scheme. She need not be a PR b4 you can buy a flat. She must however be holding on to a social visit pass with 6 months validity or more.

So you have to ROM with her and apply for the Long term social visit pass(LTSVP) and then look for a flat..

Depending on the area,condition, and floor level, a 3-room HDB flat ranges from 160k - 200k...

With your income, the most probable bank that will approve your loan will be DBS/POSB.....

Hope these info helps you answer some questions!
Alternatively you can pm me if you have more questions!

[SingViet]

i feel that too many singaporean man are thinking that the passport to a free sex any time of the day is thru marrying a vietnamese wife. Without the proper financial means to support a family, these singaporean man have caused the vietnamese spouse much worries and even resort to their old trade of being a WL to survive. These actions have caused a lot of singaporean man and woman to look down on vietnamese ladies.

Let me relate a recent incident that i have encountered. My wife, being a few months pregnant, was vomitting excessively and i decided to bring her to KK Hospital 24 hours clinic. At the clinic, a singaporean lady gyane doctor attended to my wife. Her atittude towards my wife was arrognant and not so pleasant (this despite the fact that my wife is already Singapore citizen). My wife was warded and i choose A1 ward for her. The counter lady asked me `you sure u want A1 ward? you need to put deposit, you know? your wife vietnamese leh' So i replied ` Yes for sure i want A1 ward and i am very sure i can pay the deposit. My wife is singaporean now, not vietnamese.'

Next day, doctor came up to ward, saw that we are in A1 ward, treated us totally different. knn, terrible but this is the way singaporeans treat vietnamese ladies. Not the first time roi....

[friend_mass]

I think not because singaporean look down vietnamese.. is because.. some singaporean treat different to other depend on money status.. A1 Ward shld be showing u are $$$$ singaporean.. that why the doctor attitude change suddenly.. haha maybe scared u got $$$ can sue him.. something like that..
it is the $$$$ make the different in singapore hahaha

[David_Villa]

Originally Posted by SingViet

singaporean man and woman to look down on vietnamese ladies.

singaporean not only look down on vietnamese but also looks down on those people from the third world country. Don't forget that SWM also look down on us.

As for us that hv foreign wives we learn to treat everybody equally.

[joob]

Originally Posted by David_Villa

singaporean not only look down on vietnamese but also looks down on those people from the third world country. Don't forget that SWM also look down on us.

As for us that hv foreign wives we learn to treat everybody equally.

I've been to the poorest of countries, seen the worst of what humans can do to each other. Children walking barefooted on sandy beaches with temperature reaching 45 deg C. Children that has nothing to eat and treat you like a king when you give them just one sweet.

Singaporeans are just think themselves as high and mighty. We're only human beings. Just because a person is from a poor country doesn't give us the right to look down on him/her. One day, Singapore will also get into trouble, when that time comes, I wonder if we have any friends.