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I agreed. If she really loves u, it doesnt matter to her if u poor, she will still stick with u. My bxa i told her many times tat i not loaded n now still servicing a few loans so no money to give her, so after marry, life will not be comfortable, she has to go work to contribute to the family. After tell her i asked if she still want marry me? Her replies remains the same everytime i ask her: hello, i want to be with u not becos of money hor, i want to be with u cos i really love u. It doesnt matter if u rich or poor, as Long u truelly love me can liao.
So i guess i'm also lucky.
bro,not pointing at u but just want to comment on this.Most of them will think we sg man are rich even though we can tell them we are not loaded.Earning maybe 1.5k and above per month may seems a lot to them but in sg,seriously is tough.
Some girl will say they dont care whether u are rich or poor,she only love u.Some is true but they might think if marry a sg man even though that guy is not loaded,at least she is able to find a Job here but the thing is nowadays is very difficult for ICA to grant foreign spouse PR so they might not find a job here and will make things worse when her family demand for money from her
Seriously all this things have to discuss with her cos it may affect the marriage
bro,not pointing at u but just want to comment on this.Most of them will think we sg man are rich even though we can tell them we are not loaded.Earning maybe 1.5k and above per month may seems a lot to them but in sg,seriously is tough.
Some girl will say they dont care whether u are rich or poor,she only love u.Some is true but they might think if marry a sg man even though that guy is not loaded,at least she is able to find a Job here but the thing is nowadays is very difficult for ICA to grant foreign spouse PR so they might not find a job here and will make things worse when her family demand for money from her
Seriously all this things have to discuss with her cos it may affect the marriage
Yes this i know.
Good thing is my bxa not those type u mentioned. She even tell me to look out for job for her so when she come over so she can contribute to our family. Even though i didnt tell her, she brought this up herself. This is one of the plus pts tat made me decided tat she is the one.
I only see her stubborn Side after 6 months ... After 1 year more stubborn but the also like to " Sha Jiao " ....
KKDD
When i first marry,we quarrel quite often due to my hetic work and impatient.Her stubborn attitude together with me insisting my way of doing things make things worse.I always show her a smelly face when i came home after work and she start to tell me,whatever unhappiness i face at work,i should not bring back to home.I start to ask myself whether i am right in marrying her after many quarrels and also part of her stubborness which refuse to listen to the reason on why i say so.If only i came in this thread before i marry her,i would learn a lot from experience bro here and all those quarrel will be lesser.
After changing to a less hetic work,i start to become more relax and have more time with her.She massage my shoulder when i say i am tired,every day she will wake up early to cook for me before going to work,cover me with a blanket when she wake up and see me cold,draw down the window curtain to block the sunlight shinning in while i am sleeping.After few years of marriage,she is still doing all this to me.She even joke with me that she like taking care about a big baby
I start to close one eye and try to think of those good things she do to me after quarrel and it help in our marriage.Like what bro shysaint say,communication is very important,knowing them and understand them is much easier if u focus on those good things she do to u.Is true that stubborn is in their blood but they can be a very caring wife if u are lucky.
1 thing that i always remember is how she take care of my dad when he is hospitalised and at home.Maybe is time we should also share some good things about our vietnam spouse cos they still have some good points that sg girl lack of towards a sg man
Yes this i know.
Good thing is my bxa not those type u mentioned. She even tell me to look out for job for her so when she come over so she can contribute to our family. Even though i didnt tell her, she brought this up herself. This is one of the plus pts tat made me decided tat she is the one.
When i first marry,we quarrel quite often due to my hetic work and impatient.Her stubborn attitude together with me insisting my way of doing things make things worse.I always show her a smelly face when i came home after work and she start to tell me,whatever unhappiness i face at work,i should not bring back to home.I start to ask myself whether i am right in marrying her after many quarrels and also part of her stubborness which refuse to listen to the reason on why i say so.If only i came in this thread before i marry her,i would learn a lot from experience bro here and all those quarrel will be lesser.
After changing to a less hetic work,i start to become more relax and have more time with her.She massage my shoulder when i say i am tired,every day she will wake up early to cook for me before going to work,cover me with a blanket when she wake up and see me cold,draw down the window curtain to block the sunlight shinning in while i am sleeping.After few years of marriage,she is still doing all this to me.She even joke with me that she like taking care about a big baby
I start to close one eye and try to think of those good things she do to me after quarrel and it help in our marriage.Like what bro shysaint say,communication is very important,knowing them and understand them is much easier if u focus on those good things she do to u.Is true that stubborn is in their blood but they can be a very caring wife if u are lucky.
1 thing that i always remember is how she take care of my dad when he is hospitalised and at home.Maybe is time we should also share some good things about our vietnam spouse cos they still have some good points that sg girl lack of towards a sg man
1st thing 1st ... whether u marry a Sg gal , Vn gal, Thai gal .. any gal ... it's the same ...
In Sg .. what spoils an relationship .... STRESS ... WORK LOAD ... NOT ENOUGH $$$ ... NO TIME ... WIFE NOT UNDERSTANDING ... WIFE CANNOT GET ALONG WITH PARENTS .. CHILDREN ... there are many many many ... sometimes we guys used these as excuse or reason ....
No one is Perfect ... I also sometimes think why I should get involve with my wife .. maybe she can find someone better than me and have better life ...
That's why i Said it's Fate (at the 1st place) ....
Bro .. you have a wife that do all theses stuffs for you ... especially after a period of uncertainties ... maybe for some others, she probably have left you ... but then things changed for the better ...
My wife don't put blanket for me ....she don't wake up early for me .. she don't fetch me at airport when I go VN ... there are many many that she don't do which I hope she will do ...
BUT then ... I still love her for what she is .... all her carings and thoughts for me are from the heart although she don't show it ...
Therefore, every gal is different .... every feeling is different .. treasure what you have is more imprtant than what you going to expect ... no point comparing what others have ...
1st thing 1st ... whether u marry a Sg gal , Vn gal, Thai gal .. any gal ... it's the same ...
In Sg .. what spoils an relationship .... STRESS ... WORK LOAD ... NOT ENOUGH $$$ ... NO TIME ... WIFE NOT UNDERSTANDING ... WIFE CANNOT GET ALONG WITH PARENTS .. CHILDREN ... there are many many many ... sometimes we guys used these as excuse or reason ....
No one is Perfect ... I also sometimes think why I should get involve with my wife .. maybe she can find someone better than me and have better life ...
That's why i Said it's Fate (at the 1st place) ....
Bro .. you have a wife that do all theses stuffs for you ... especially after a period of uncertainties ... maybe for some others, she probably have left you ... but then things changed for the better ...
My wife don't put blanket for me ....she don't wake up early for me .. she don't fetch me at airport when I go VN ... there are many many that she don't do which I hope she will do ...
BUT then ... I still love her for what she is .... all her carings and thoughts for me are from the heart although she don't show it ...
Therefore, every gal is different .... every feeling is different .. treasure what you have is more imprtant than what you going to expect ... no point comparing what others have ...
Your wife same as me.Even if we dont do anything that is memorable,we still love from our heart.
My wife sometime like to disturb me,there was once she ask:Why u no sweet talk with me not like vietnam man?
I told her:U like man who sweet talk with u all the time but play around outside with girls and lazy to work or u want a man who is boring or no sweet talk with u but he give u a stable life,no fool around and take care of u?
She heehee and she told me she prefer the latter
Same as your thinking,u know your wife dont show it out but u know deep inside,she care about u.Every girl is different,appreciate what your partner do for u and put all those minor misunderstanding quarrel a side
Your wife same as me.Even if we dont do anything that is memorable,we still love from our heart.
My wife sometime like to disturb me,there was once she ask:Why u no sweet talk with me not like vietnam man?
I told her:U like man who sweet talk with u all the time but play around outside with girls and lazy to work or u want a man who is boring or no sweet talk with u but he give u a stable life,no fool around and take care of u?
She heehee and she told me she prefer the latter
Same as your thinking,u know your wife dont show it out but u know deep inside,she care about u.Every girl is different,appreciate what your partner do for u and put all those minor misunderstanding quarrel a side
Once my wife come in another 2 weeks time ... we can go out for lunch or dinner
Your wife same as me.Even if we dont do anything that is memorable,we still love from our heart.
My wife sometime like to disturb me,there was once she ask:Why u no sweet talk with me not like vietnam man?
I told her:U like man who sweet talk with u all the time but play around outside with girls and lazy to work or u want a man who is boring or no sweet talk with u but he give u a stable life,no fool around and take care of u?
She heehee and she told me she prefer the latter
Same as your thinking,u know your wife dont show it out but u know deep inside,she care about u.Every girl is different,appreciate what your partner do for u and put all those minor misunderstanding quarrel a side
Yes, i agreed. If there are any misunderstandings or quarrels, be it big or small, have to sit down at clear it out with yur wife. Try explain to her yur views n try understand her views too. Have to "da shi hua xiao, xiao shi hua wu". If not, it will snowball n next time when the 2 of u quarrel again, all will be brought out again. Then it will be nvr ending. So like wat u n shysaint said, it boils down to communication n it takes 2 hands to clap!
02-12-2011, 05:22 PM
