Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[batty]

Hi SingViet. I once met a Mr Nyuyen from Vietnam. He's working in Singapore. He told me that his Vietnamese wife staying in Vietnam never asked him for money once! Looks like Vietnamese wives 'see face' (look at the situation and act accordingly).

About education in Vietnam, he said that his Vietnamese friend saw an average primary school in Singapore and was very impressed. He said it is much better than Hanoi University. (I feel that most important are the quality and attitude of the teachers. Having advanced schooling facilities helps).

Women buying clothes often are common. My mother, a Singaporean Chinese woman, has lots of expensive clothes which she very seldom use. She and my wife, another Singaporean Chinese woman, will donate their out of fashion but useable clothes to their maids about twice a year. These clothes are not even well worn.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by batty

Hi SingViet. I once met a Mr Nyuyen from Vietnam. He's working in Singapore. He told me that his Vietnamese wife staying in Vietnam never asked him for money once! Looks like Vietnamese wives 'see face' (look at the situation and act accordingly).

think the wife is capable and able to earn her own money...or practically rich family because for Vn men to work in Sinkie means that guy is a graduate and skilled employee which only rich family can have sons that can afford to go expensive university abroad...in fact is not good idea to leave a young wife in Vn after marriage...bound to attract alot of horny men who preyed on wives whose husband not around for long...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by batty

Hi SingViet. I once met a Mr Nyuyen from Vietnam. He's working in Singapore. He told me that his Vietnamese wife staying in Vietnam never asked him for money once! Looks like Vietnamese wives 'see face' (look at the situation and act accordingly).

Normal province vietnamese ladies tend to look at Vietnamese man and foreigner man in different perspective. Foreigner man are always deem much richer than local vietnamese man and thus more able to support them financially.

The rich and the poor in Vietnam tend to be very much different. The rich are with more pride and will not want to take any from their daughters even when she marries a foreigner. Many times, they know that they are even richer than the foreigner son-in-law. Its just that the poor vietnamese always will view foreigners differently. Getting a foreigner son-in-law is like a promise of a life time of money coming to them without working.

By the way, its Mr Nguyen...... not Mr Nyuyen.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

...in fact is not good idea to leave a young wife in Vn after marriage...bound to attract alot of horny men who preyed on wives whose husband not around for long...

off track a bit, bros got to be a bit careful. Nowadays in Singapore got a lot of SWM. These SWM like to prey on asian ladies. I remember many times, when i leave my wife's side for a while to go gents, then will have a SWM will try to approach my wife to tackle her and my wife is totally sick of SWM. I was at the airport 2 weeks back, i went to gents and my wife was waiting for me outside. When i came out, i saw a SWM trying to talk to my wife and my wife was digusted with him. I walked over and asked him ` what do you want?' the SWM said `nothing, just asking directions' and i told him `can't you read english , stupid? get lost!' the SWM just walked away. Later, i realised we were on the same flight towards Saigon... hahahah

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Sighz ... So Good ... My Wife Cannot Cook and also Lazy to Learn Cooking ....

Its alright bro. Different ladies are strong in different areas. I remember when i first married my wife, she's also those type that doesn't like to cook. At the time i was staying in VN. I got to employ a cook to cook for my family for lunch and dinner daily. After we came back Singapore, we stayed alone and because of children, my wife started to learn to cook. For the past 2 years, after my parents moved in with me, my wife learnt to cook a lot of chinese dishes from my mum. Now, my wife cooks daily and enjoy cooking. But of course, one of the reasons being my maid also cannot cook.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

off track a bit, bros got to be a bit careful. Nowadays in Singapore got a lot of SWM. These SWM like to prey on asian ladies. I remember many times, when i leave my wife's side for a while to go gents, then will have a SWM will try to approach my wife to tackle her and my wife is totally sick of SWM. I was at the airport 2 weeks back, i went to gents and my wife was waiting for me outside. When i came out, i saw a SWM trying to talk to my wife and my wife was digusted with him. I walked over and asked him ` what do you want?' the SWM said `nothing, just asking directions' and i told him `can't you read english , stupid? get lost!' the SWM just walked away. Later, i realised we were on the same flight towards Saigon... hahahah

haha...thank you for bring this up...I do realised this more than 4 yrs ago...my ger dun speak english and very afraid of SWM...so always tend to ignore them...

I dun choose Vn gers that can speak English or Mandarin...these girls have more options and tend to sway when they exposed...

My 1st ex can speak cantonese...broke off after 2 years...
My 2nd ex can only speak Tieng Viet but broke off with me to go with a Viet Kieu after 9 months...seems that the Viet Kieus offer much much more money to her than me...

Now I am free to chiong...will take my time to choose before commit...plenty of targets...now I wait to see what are the gers offering me....hihi...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Its alright bro. Different ladies are strong in different areas. I remember when i first married my wife, she's also those type that doesn't like to cook. At the time i was staying in VN. I got to employ a cook to cook for my family for lunch and dinner daily. After we came back Singapore, we stayed alone and because of children, my wife started to learn to cook. For the past 2 years, after my parents moved in with me, my wife learnt to cook a lot of chinese dishes from my mum. Now, my wife cooks daily and enjoy cooking. But of course, one of the reasons being my maid also cannot cook.

Bro SV ...

hope my BX will reach your BX's level ....

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

off track a bit, bros got to be a bit careful. Nowadays in Singapore got a lot of SWM.

Bro ...

Simi si SWM

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Bro ...

Simi si SWM

Stupid White Men la...

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by SingViet

I kept my calm and asked my wife `do you think you should do that?' my wife answered `why should i do that to help my lazy sister? My mum has a lot of land, she's not poor, no need for me to do that.' it was such a relieved when i heard her answer.

Your wife is sensible... Why go outside and struggle and then the $$$ go to another person's pocket???

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by Golden question

if my aunt have not told my sis and she did not tell me,i will not know cos she never mention to me.when i ask her why she do that,she just told me that she pity my father and worry that nobody will help him wash her hair and face and he will feel uncomfortabe.

i guess the best wife that any guy hope to have is that lady who can go through thick and thin with you no matter where or what.

Congrats to you too!

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by SingViet

this call li shan wan lai ? from the last many years till now, its only 1 way traffic, only i give them, they never even give my children 2 dong li xi

You give them $$$ they give u TROUBLE!!! 恩将仇报

[robocock]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Stupid White Men la...

SWM used to be in fashion long long time ago..now only those stupid SPG still likes them... thinking they are rich! The fact is that these SWM nowadays is nothing compared to the chinese tow kays already, and most of them probably have Chinese bosses!!!

[miua55555]

Originally Posted by SingViet

this call li shan wan lai ? from the last many years till now, its only 1 way traffic, only i give them, they never even give my children 2 dong li xi

that's bcos they jialat lor... different family works differently imo.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by miua55555

that's bcos they jialat lor... different family works differently imo.

Yes , you are right to say different families work differently. But my real life experience is what majority of these normal viets from the province does. Every Singaporean man that marries a viet spouse will think that their in-laws are not what is potrayed. Take some time, observe and experience. After some years, if you are still with your wife, you will know and will have learnt how to handle them. But in the meantime, if you are not married to one yet, you are surely not experienced enuff to comment on the differences.