Sex Addiction? Vicious Cycle?

[piichai]

Originally Posted by Shinya123

Have engaged in plenty of sports and exercise. Now only Cheong once a month as against weekly in the past

This is exactly what have happened.

When you have something that kept you busy such as a new hobby, sports, music or a company, you do not think of cheonging. Maybe once a while

Before that, the moment we wake up, which ML to try.
It is hurting to the wallet.

[piichai]

Originally Posted by blitzkriegg

Up you for sharing. Yeah, I guess its quite common.

I go to the gym and do various sports regularly so for me the exercise doesn't help much in kicking the addiction. I find that the long periods where I really don't feel an urge to find a commercial release is when I am actively chasing a girl and I think about her every day. But as I have been single for so long those times are rare.
Unfortunately ever since the pandemic started our opportunities for socializing with the opposite sex - whether those we know or new people has become so difficult. So apart from CB period where it was illegal, I actually find it harder to resist during the phase 2 and 3 phases.

I think many brothers may have mistaken my point except you.

I have not stopped exercising, cheong or dont cheong. In fact, Exercise doesnt get cheonging out of my head.
After work out , the adenalin gets me more horny and want to release.
Or I am so tired and need a good massage and follow by special.
Whichever it is, exercise and going to SPA left me more empty than before.
Exercise does not completely eliminate the urge.


The most effective is a new relationship. And i am not talking abt the ML, FL or WL type of commercialize relationship.
Like some of us here we buy them flowers, supper, taking her to GBB etc.
Paying her money on her off days to go hotel with her. NO NO NO

I am talking abt love and true relationship.
Enjoying each other company. This one will totally eliminate your urge.
Even when she zao geng, you also will not see
You do not have any ulterior motive to sleep with her.

The hugging and holding is purely love.
You will not get an erection if you have not released for a while.
THIS WILL TAKE YOU OFF THE SCENE. UNTIL THE RELATIONSHIP FAILS.

The feelings of money wasted is a by product of the realization.
It is not the main objective of not cheonging.

I am not talking bcos i have overcome as i know the cheonging will come back again when the love dies.

[piichai]

Originally Posted by bignehneh

Actually if you cheong for 20-30 years and spending $2000 a month, don’t be surprised how much you spent and how much potentially you lost in terms of compounding.

Let’s say you start at age of 25 spending $1000 per month and today you are 45. The amount can be invested into a fund that gives u 10% returns. You would have lost $687,000 in your cheong journey. Lol! I have always been trying to stop my cheong journey but didn’t manage to until Covid19 struck! Wa! CB! I dump those money I usually spend cheonging into the stock market and I have accumulated more than $100k in just 1 year. Really fuck! Seriously, best to think using big head. 2 years can easily pay off a Tesla model 3.

Let’s say you are 35, 40, 45 or even 50 today, it is not too late to stop. The $$$ u started accumulating now can be massive. Of course once a while to release if there is really an awesome lady. Cap at 1 time a month max. Not 3 times a week. Ok bros?

I can look back at those money wasted but I never regret. For a cheongster, doing this is like a smoker want to smoke or a glutton who needs to eat.

Those climixess and orgasamn or those big neh beh that we squeezed are in exchange for the money we spend. We can make back the money but the big neh neh may not come back.

No regrets. If looked back, it is never ending and you must also remember the ecstacy we have gone through.

[Palin]

Actually, no regrets, only regret when younger no monies. Lol. The HC experience in the early 2000s…that is something even you have money now, you can’t turn back time and go enjoy.

Bros are here because by nature sibeh horny aka sex drive high…even when in relationship, you try to be faithful, you probably will still fantasize “doing it with the JAV models or whichever” that rocks your boat. When that relationship ends, suddenly the dragon release into the wild and all hell breaks loose.

So, my advice is cheong whatever you can afford, don’t overleverage, curb the number of times, be selective (have QC so you don’t fritter monies unnecessarily) and live a happy, healthy cork life…lol

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by piichai

Once you are free, you will check which SPA to go and which ML to find.
Often spending $100 per trip and 3 times per week. It becomes an habit and you easily spend $1500 per month.

Then out of a sudden, you met a gal (Not ML, WL or those commercial gals) somewhere in the workplace, social events or party.
You started to date and when not dating, you read, exercise and do something more constructive. You dont even think of sex but both of you spend time together enjoying
Going to Spa is once a while to get over the sexual needs which is not available at this stage with her. Sex is not even on your mind.

Suddenly you realized that you have been spending foolishly and wasting quite a lot of money in the past for the temporary release. So you stopped immediately and completely.
(That explained why some brothers disappear for a while) Then after a while when relationship fails, you are back to commercialism and into SBF forums. (That explains why some return)
The vicious cycle continue.

Anyone been through this?
Feel free to share.

I think many here have a wrong understanding on sex after you have a gf. Whatever amount you used to pay per shot for commercial sex (say $100), you continue to pay even after you are attached. So each round with your gf, you save $100 into your piggy bank. 1 night 3 rounds, go save $300 into the piggy bank because you would have paid the FL $300 (if the cost is $100 per shot lah).

Soon, you will realise you are saving a lot of money and therefore it gives you more reason to appreciate and love your gf. Maybe the money you save can afford a simple wedding over time. Should be able to buy diamond ring at least.

Then after marriage, continue the habit. Save some money after each round of sex. If she stop having sex with you or if she grew so fat that you see already cannot stand, then you will need money for commercial sex right? The piggy bank comes in handy then right?

[Samto]

Lol, this is very interesting theory on this topic, that's very true and practical advice

Originally Posted by Xgenre

I think many here have a wrong understanding on sex after you have a gf. Whatever amount you used to pay per shot for commercial sex (say $100), you continue to pay even after you are attached. So each round with your gf, you save $100 into your piggy bank. 1 night 3 rounds, go save $300 into the piggy bank because you would have paid the FL $300 (if the cost is $100 per shot lah).

Soon, you will realise you are saving a lot of money and therefore it gives you more reason to appreciate and love your gf. Maybe the money you save can afford a simple wedding over time. Should be able to buy diamond ring at least.

Then after marriage, continue the habit. Save some money after each round of sex. If she stop having sex with you or if she grew so fat that you see already cannot stand, then you will need money for commercial sex right? The piggy bank comes in handy then right?

[hannibald]

I am quite the opposite.
I regret not trying Trista when she was in working in SG.
I regret to fucking Chanel more regularly when she was in SG.
I regret not trying joints like Haru, Dragon HC, Balmoral HC, etc when they were open then.
I regret not cheonging more KTV when locals were commons and actions in the room were no-holds barred.

No matter how much you have accumulated now, you will not be able to go back to the days of HC and happening KTV and fucking some of the prettiest ladies you can find.

My 2 cents.

[Gump]

Originally Posted by hannibald

I am quite the opposite.
I regret not trying Trista when she was in working in SG.
I regret to fucking Chanel more regularly when she was in SG.
I regret not trying joints like Haru, Dragon HC, Balmoral HC, etc when they were open then.
I regret not cheonging more KTV when locals were commons and actions in the room were no-holds barred.

No matter how much you have accumulated now, you will not be able to go back to the days of HC and happening KTV and fucking some of the prettiest ladies you can find.

My 2 cents.

I agree with this post. I really regret not being fast hand fast cock in trying LV of the spa in marine parade. Heard she looks like the young maggie cheung. It was all because I was trying to save money as I had exceeded my budget for that week. And just nice after that week, the spa got raided and everyone was gone.

We cannot take our money to the grave, and who knows how long more can we live. If we don't spend money to enjoy life now, we may not get a chance to. As long as we spend within our means and not affect the other aspects of our lives, it is ok.

Some of us are also not born handsome enough to attract the prettiest girls on Earth, so we have to use money to get them

[blitzkriegg]

Originally Posted by piichai

I think many brothers may have mistaken my point except you.

I have not stopped exercising, cheong or dont cheong. In fact, Exercise doesnt get cheonging out of my head.
After work out , the adenalin gets me more horny and want to release.
Or I am so tired and need a good massage and follow by special.
Whichever it is, exercise and going to SPA left me more empty than before.
Exercise does not completely eliminate the urge.


The most effective is a new relationship. And i am not talking abt the ML, FL or WL type of commercialize relationship.
Like some of us here we buy them flowers, supper, taking her to GBB etc.
Paying her money on her off days to go hotel with her. NO NO NO

I am talking abt love and true relationship.
Enjoying each other company. This one will totally eliminate your urge.
Even when she zao geng, you also will not see
You do not have any ulterior motive to sleep with her.

The hugging and holding is purely love.
You will not get an erection if you have not released for a while.
THIS WILL TAKE YOU OFF THE SCENE. UNTIL THE RELATIONSHIP FAILS.

The feelings of money wasted is a by product of the realization.
It is not the main objective of not cheonging.

I am not talking bcos i have overcome as i know the cheonging will come back again when the love dies.

I totally agree bro. Having a loving and serious relationship is what changes all that. Not financial pressures or lifestyle changes.

I can only hope that social, mask off events comes back soon so that we would have opportunities to meet girls and have that relationship once again.

[sexyboijj]

thanks for sharing bro.

often it's the thrill that we are looking for when we go on this adventure. the ability to get a clean joint to do something more, to get regular ML to provide something more, or to find new cai in a new joint

jerking or not became secondary but on completing the process, ejaculating, it is when we get overwhelm with a strong feeling of self guilt.

getting into a relationship, have new commitment in life helps temporary when things are going smoothly (time pass without us knowing) but then things started looking bad, some of us might return for short term relief.

on the topic of addiction, when you realised that you have been seeking immediate gratification more than delayed gratification. it might be good to seek for help (67326837) by communicating with a professional.

really agree and relate to bros here on the measure we should take like setting a budget for such expense, do not succumb to little head easily (especially if the ML is not to your liking), and to not let this addiction affect important things in life.

[bignehneh]

Originally Posted by bignehneh

Actually if you cheong for 20-30 years and spending $2000 a month, don’t be surprised how much you spent and how much potentially you lost in terms of compounding.

Let’s say you start at age of 25 spending $1000 per month and today you are 45. The amount can be invested into a fund that gives u 10% returns. You would have lost $687,000 in your cheong journey. Lol! I have always been trying to stop my cheong journey but didn’t manage to until Covid19 struck! Wa! CB! I dump those money I usually spend cheonging into the stock market and I have accumulated more than $100k in just 1 year. Really fuck! Seriously, best to think using big head. 2 years can easily pay off a Tesla model 3.

Let’s say you are 35, 40, 45 or even 50 today, it is not too late to stop. The $$$ u started accumulating now can be massive. Of course once a while to release if there is really an awesome lady. Cap at 1 time a month max. Not 3 times a week. Ok bros?

Actually I feel I am dumb because I should have invested my money earlier. For instance if you have $300k in investments and each year they give dividend, you get $12,000 every year. Can cheong 120 times. Now I find I go massage and special, it is practically free. If start early, easier few hundred k to earn dividend to cheong….wooo!

Thanks to Covid19

[hannibald]

Originally Posted by bignehneh

Actually I feel I am dumb because I should have invested my money earlier. For instance if you have $300k in investments and each year they give dividend, you get $12,000 every year. Can cheong 120 times. Now I find I go massage and special, it is practically free. If start early, easier few hundred k to earn dividend to cheong….wooo!

Thanks to Covid19

The problem is now you got money also no good place to cheong.

ML quality now are a far cry from days of HC and SBR, not to mention the level of service provided.

[angrygugubird]

If you cheong for the past 20-30 years. Today you think back you might have save so much money that you invest them, today how much you will have and regret

Let say you dont cheong and today you have that much money. But you see those girls enjoy being with those young guys, enjoy getting fuck by young guys. You then will regret why back then, when you are young and little bro still hard and strong, why you didnt cheong those chiobu

[GN007SG]

I only regret not being born earlier lol
Some early days were golden era

Some ppl have low sex drive while others have high sex drive
Some ppl have to eat supper while others don't

To some ppl it's a need while to others it isnt
Controlling the urge might just backfire

We just need to be spending within our means
Sometimes I want to go for syt at higher cost
Other days I just want a release so I chose a budget milf
With covid and GL shutdown, indeed pocket hurt

[newswing]

Let's just say that when u are young, u tend to be foolish.
Some people have vices like gambling or drinking, etc.
I think I might have a minor sex addiction which I think at times I don't have much control over it.
There were times where I visit a certain Thai FL almost everyweek, did all the hardcore stuff to her. If she has gone home, I will be hunting for the next one, most probably from another House.
Sometimes I wanna have so much sex that if there are dxxgs available to enhance my performance, I'll take it. It's like my satisfaction matters!
Do I treat my female colleagues with respect? Yes, I act a decent person in the office.
Of course, starting a family is the ideal one. Some of us dated a few girls but " the devil in me says fxxk it. Just cheong! When covid hits, u start to think more of your life.

Do I regret what I have done and the money I've spent? Yes and No!

In this uncertain times, u could be think positively and also negatively.

If some of u have just started cheonging, time to put a stop!
If u think u have a certain addiction, try to get help and overcome them!