Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by lkyin1

Since bro SingViet talk abt the negative side of their culture. letz us discuss what are the negative side.

1) cat cu
2) jealous easily
3) demanding
4) fierce
5) poor $ management
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other broz can feel free to add in

Cat cu??? Negative side of their culture? U mean they practice cat cu commonly??? culture is the beliefs and practices that are practiced commonly and regularly.
From what i remembered, other places also have cat cu incidents not only vietnam.

Jealous easily, which country's gal doesnt? Also depends on how much she loved u. This depends individually. So to me this is not culture.

I agreed with u on the fierce point. My wife once said to me: if i not fierce with u, i'll be very 残. U outside will have lots of con gai!

I add 1 more: their stubborness.

[Blast88]

[QUOTE=Golden question;7251367]

Originally Posted by Blast88

Is a good example as what bro singviet say,too many sg husband is giving in to their viet wife.But for your wife to stay here for the past 2 years and still take taxi from point A to B and even 3 mrt stops journey she also take taxi is a bit too much.If first few months,maybe i can say she need time to adjust but already 2 years already.

She have to start to learn to do things if she want to continue to live here.Dont spolit her by ferry her that often.I am not saying that u must ill treat her but learn to tighten the rope when is necessary and dont like what bro singviet say,let your wife take u for the ride.

I might sound busybody to u or too straight forward but if your wife is a understanding person and love u,she will go learn herself.everything depends on her,u can guide her but dont expect the environment to change to suit her but she must change herself to suit the environment

No point arguing with her on taking taxi issues & this are little part I need to accomodate. Some time thinking it over she left her family & married me here, undergoing hardship & suffering when giving birth to our son, I need to forgo all these.

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by Flamer89

oh my . i didnt know about this . my gf comes from the mekong area also .. didnt hear her mention about this to me ..

Bro, its not she didnt mention, its she yet to.

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by Golden question

I always give in when i do something wrong

Wa liao, who doesnt? If not it is either you doesnt admit you are wrong or u are like vietnamese, stubborn!

[shysaint]

BRO GQ :

Are u back in Singapore with your wife ?

[vietboy]

Looking forward to 2nd june.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by vietboy

Looking forward to 2nd june.

what's install for 2nd June You mistress coming in to town har

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by shysaint

what's install for 2nd June You mistress coming in to town har

Oh.. so should i increase 1 more pax for Bro Vietboy?

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Oh.. so should i increase 1 more pax for Bro Vietboy?

hahahahha ... BRO SV .. u better prepare 1 x extra for him (Vietboy) ...

[lkyin1]

Originally Posted by vietboy

I agreed with u on the fierce point. My wife once said to me: if i not fierce with u, i'll be very 残. U outside will have lots of con gai!

I add 1 more: their stubborness.

yes, i agreed that they r very stubborn.....die die muz do their way....haiz....need alot of time and patience to slowly let them adapt

[Honey Boon]

this method got use ..... not only viet do that, Khmer and PRC also doing that .... can release your "poisons" or "heat" in your body that causing all the problems. My MIL (malaysian) doing that for me when I am sick, use a procelein spoon and johnson baby oil.... after that, I feel much better and can sleep well

Originally Posted by Golden question

my wife always like to use a 20 cents coin to rub against her skin to until redness when she is tired or sick.i find it disgusting but she say it help to release the blood so that she will feel better

She ask me to do for her but i always reject and when she want to try on me when i am sick,i push away her hand

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Golden question

my wife always like to use a 20 cents coin to rub against her skin to until redness when she is tired or sick.

I have been sick these days and my bx rub my back and body with a procelein spoon with oil... really feels better.

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

this method got use ..... not only viet do that, Khmer and PRC also doing that ....

sillyporean also use this method... pass down from grandma, grandpa..

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

My MIL (malaysian) doing that for me when I am sick, use a procelein spoon and johnson baby oil.... after that, I feel much better and can sleep well

Originally Posted by KangTuo

I have been sick these days and my bx rub my back and body with a procelein spoon with oil... really feels better.

Every traditional method will have its own use and effectiveness ... It up to the individual to try and see if it's useful or effective ...

To us living in a modern society, we will find such acts disgusting .. funny .. stupid or SURE not effective and etc ...

In reverse, to people living in a NOT modern society will find the western medicine not effective .. they would rather try their own traditional medicine and way to find cure ...

Eg. fever ... some say wrapped yourself up and sweat it out and u be okie ... some say must not do that ... so who is correct and who is wrong?

Eg. flu ... put lemon in coke and boil them and then drink ... so is it true and effective?

another example I wanna share is regarding my wife ... during her confinement ... my MIL will go buy or find 1 type of tree branches and leave, she would boil them hot with steam coming out. My wife will then remove all her clothings and hide inside a big blacnket together with the pot of boil tree brances and leaves. It's like steam sauna ... after that she will use the water in the pot to shower.

In chinese practice, the woman will need to bath in red date hot water ....

SO are all this traditional method useful ??? therefore it upto the individual ... if there is no harm trying .. why not ?

One more example .... MY baby when 1 mth old has already started to wear ear rings ... so how they do it ... Piangz .. When my bb was 1 mth old, They use needle to poke thru with a red string ... and she wore the red string for about 1 mth before changing to the gold type. IF I am there, I probably will stop it ... but then .... every child in VN does that .. if I stop everybody also not happy .. headache ...

Sometimes I feel its the thought and not the method , so we need to be very aware in such situation.

[Blast88]

Originally Posted by lkyin1

yes, i agreed that they r very stubborn.....die die muz do their way....haiz....need alot of time and patience to slowly let them adapt

In certain extent, yes some time they are stubborn but what I feel are majority lacking of self-confidence. Eg, Once we went to a shopping mall & my bx enter a lingerie shop with a chinese sales girl to buy bra & underwear, although she can converse quite well in mandarin & cantonese but she still shy to ask, thinking people might not understand her & end of the day I need to ask on her behalf regards to cup sizes, material make, patterns, how much, etc, it make me so 'pai sei' & I dare not make any eye contact with the sales girl during the whole buying process.

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by shysaint

what's install for 2nd June You mistress coming in to town har :

Shit! How u know?? Shh.. Dun tell anyone ok?

Originally Posted by SingViet

Oh.. so should i increase 1 more pax for Bro Vietboy?

Originally Posted by shysaint

hahahahha ... BRO SV .. u better prepare 1 x extra for him (Vietboy) ... :

Why extra 1pax for me? I cant bring my mistress along lah.