Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by mackewell

OK i laid the intro liao so here comes the plot /story of my life. I hope bros here dont stereotype her too much and give me some advice. i will post my story on a new post as it is lengthy, i will split into 3 parts coz kinda long. OK NEXT POST my story PART 1 .

nice story...not sure what kind of advice you want from us...

you already mentioned dun stereotype her...

btw...many similar cases discussed before in this thread...you can refer to see some similarities...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by mackewell

Ok lah end of my long rant, time to move forward in my life, never give up or let up, chiong smart live smart cheers....

Didn't read all your stories but notice, u from Thai to Viet or Viet to Thai... if u keep finding love in the wrong place, u will face the same problem over and over again.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Didn't read all your stories but notice, u from Thai to Viet or Viet to Thai... if u keep finding love in the wrong place, u will face the same problem over and over again.

Bro, agreed man, before my current 'bx', i think i was never serious before, just want fulfil my motto F& F mahhhhnh. Now different liao, when u lose someone, u start to appreciate her good, we guys always take things for granted i suppose lol...

[stillgottheblue]

Mackewell, thought you are learning Thai, now you're going to learn Vietnamese? You should begin by starting working.

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by SingViet

The Singaporean guarantor got to ensure that the VB doesn't infringe the law during her stay in Singapore. Think about it, all these VBs are here to make a living by working illegally in vice trade, high chance of being raided. So if your friend wants to exchange jail term for some sex, he can always try.

There are also some Singaporean man with Viet spouse providing accommodation for these VBs going around looking for addresses to sell to these VBs to place on their Singapore White card. They will provide the address of their Singaporean friends, especially those with viet spouse to the VBs. 1 address is $100. This is highly unethical. I am very wary of these people.

Yes.. very jialat ones... i shared my story before first hand. .

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

Mackewell, thought you are learning Thai, now you're going to learn Vietnamese? You should begin by starting working.

Ya man have to learn tieng viet i guess, of cos must search for job opportunity and business opportunity also...

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by mackewell

Bro, agreed man, before my current 'bx', i think i was never serious before, just want fulfil my motto F& F mahhhhnh. Now different liao, when u lose someone, u start to appreciate her good, we guys always take things for granted i suppose lol...

You know your so called bx sometime end Aug 2013 and after that lost contact for almost a year and now you happened to meet her again in jb, this might be fate but then again the time you were with her is not long, most probably is infatuation.

Infatuation that will not last. Why I said is because I encountered similar situation before, I may be wrong.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Seletar

You know your so called bx sometime end Aug 2013 and after that lost contact for almost a year and now you happened to meet her again in jb, this might be fate but then again the time you were with her is not long, most probably is infatuation.

Infatuation that will not last. Why I said is because I encountered similar situation before, I may be wrong.

I met my bx in june 2006 then ICA send her back to vn. I say bye bye.
Got so many vb around, yet end dec 2006 i go vn meet my bx... it last till now
Infatuation? Fate?

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by Seletar

You know your so called bx sometime end Aug 2013 and after that lost contact for almost a year and now you happened to meet her again in jb, this might be fate but then again the time you were with her is not long, most probably is infatuation.

Infatuation that will not last. Why I said is because I encountered similar situation before, I may be wrong.

Bro from your way of reply i am looking at it from 2 point of views

1) From the astrology point of view(i am not an expert but when i not working i watch alot of taiwan variety shows on man cheating and horoscope on BGR for past 2 years), what is your horoscope? My horoscope is scorpio as i was born in november. For most scorpio men characteristics wise, we men have high sex drive, when we are on the stage of being casanovas, we change girl alot and we fuck and pcc alot.

For me, fortunately i dun have credit cards, i still spent damn loads of money on comm sex for the past eight years. I fuck and fuck, fuck and forget, change and change, sluts after sluts, milfs after milfs..... However when scorpio say enough is enough, we men stop and settle becuz of the word responsibility.

Does not mean i have to marry and give her paper oaths or what, i want to settle for the same pussy not becuz of infatuation becuz she is different, simple , down-to-earth, shes the kind of girl imo i cannot see after early 2000s as capitalism and modernisation of singapore came into the picture.... If sex is not good how? watch porn lah pcc lah, i save money also my jav collection is close to 4tb liao wont be bored i guess lol.... hey wait how can sex be always good with my 'bx'?, she is not my chicken or slut in my eyes lol...

For other horoscopes, i dunno how u all act and behave but i can tell u some horoscope like to get marry but wont settle for same pussy and will have alot of mistresses and so on cuz some guys want to bolster their egos. So you need to know who you are characteristic wise before you commit or what....

2) From the situational point of view, no offence to xin jiao, newbies bros and so on, I am not a giver, never the friendly guy, never one to bolster my ego, dont really trust people easily. Newbies bros who do not have tt experience will see stars and be infatuated and start singing the savage garden songs LOL and think the viet girls love them and then what? be super nice guy, donate money, everything nod the head , so she love you more ?

LOL, no way, if the girl so easy to get an obedient sinkie bro, she make use of you then. And stop blaming the viet girl ,blame yourself cuz you are gullible when you know viet girls are smarter than we educated ppl when it comes to kc trap. I am not xin jiao but i was too cautious(go read my story again and analyse) but i regretted.

Sometimes you get treated like a dumbass becuz u choose the wrong girl or you indirectly tell them you are the ATM machine lol... And i stand by what i say, if her sister all veri hot and pretty and can tok veri well and atas, chances are your girl will play kc trap like expert one , sure go for the kill via vitamin M. My girl is plain jane, not chio, but sinkie bros want to be infatuated and say its love with the viet girl cuz she is pretty and busty? hahahahahah dont think with your small brain, think with your big brain lah.....

PS: i do believe me meeting her again is down to fate lah but no infatuation...

Just my two cents man cheers.....

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

I met my bx in june 2006 then ICA send her back to vn. I say bye bye.
Got so many vb around, yet end dec 2006 i go vn meet my bx... it last till now
Infatuation? Fate?

Bro relac lah, ppl have different views , let them be. Kangtao shifu, you are one lucky bro who earned your blissful life now thanks to overcoming language barrier, cultural differences and monetary shortcomings and so on.

I do look up to your success but i think we bros should not compare among ourselves too much. Dun put pressure on yourself sometimes, dun think too far also, does not mean marry is blissful. When you marry , you sure got chance to tio divorce, when you dun marry, you wont get divorce becuz there is no family, relatives and outside pressure. But depend on situation lah, i am not saying i am right , i stating my POV nia lol....

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by Seletar

Infatuation that will not last. Why I said is because I encountered similar situation before, I may be wrong.

From what I see, you are see-1-like-1 type

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by mackewell

Bro, agreed man, before my current 'bx', i think i was never serious before, just want fulfil my motto F& F mahhhhnh. Now different liao, when u lose someone, u start to appreciate her good, we guys always take things for granted i suppose lol...

If you are sure that your gal is serious about you and that you want to marry her asap, then carry on. It kind of defeats the purpose of asking around when you know what you want to do. Btw, the term 'ba xa' is a term you use to address your `wife' after you get your `marriage cert'.

You mention you are jobless and average looking and you see no reason why the gal should choose you, don't forget you got a RED NRIC that can sponsor her a LTSVP that will allow her to work for the longer term in Singapore. What you need to do now is to get a job and offer stability to your gal. Forget about going to VN to do business, most Singaporeans cannot make it there.

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by mackewell

Bro relac lah, ppl have different views.
But depend on situation lah, i am not saying i am right , i stating my POV nia lol....

Bro mackewell, congrats on finding back ur lost love!
U two definitely got some fate but what kind of destiny it lead to only time will tell. Real love or not also time will tell; so just enjoy with some cautions.
I'm no expert but U shd be prepared this is going to be a long winding journey with unforseen. Lots of Gut, patience, determination, understanding from both is required. Not to mention $$$$

P/s: u may want to find out why she disappeared n now earning in JB.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by SingViet

If you are sure that your gal is serious about you and that you want to marry her asap, then carry on. It kind of defeats the purpose of asking around when you know what you want to do. Btw, the term 'ba xa' is a term you use to address your `wife' after you get your `marriage cert'.

You mention you are jobless and average looking and you see no reason why the gal should choose you, don't forget you got a RED NRIC that can sponsor her a LTSVP that will allow her to work for the longer term in Singapore. What you need to do now is to get a job and offer stability to your gal. Forget about going to VN to do business, most Singaporeans cannot make it there.

Honestly i dont believe in marriage and my parents dont pressure me to do that as my uncles are all eligible bachelors who are living comfortably. I dont like kids and somemore my viet girlfriend(better dun call bx but i always call her that leh coz veri nice to call like baby or darling like tt) got a daughter liao.

But i do not know how she thinks, she dont really pressure me or talk about marriage or what, but for sure i will meet her parents and family members when i go to vietnam and see her...... its too early to marry also, lets see what happens in a year or two....

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by Kim91

Bro mackewell, congrats on finding back ur lost love!
U two definitely got some fate but what kind of destiny it lead to only time will tell. Real love or not also time will tell; so just enjoy with some cautions.
I'm no expert but U shd be prepared this is going to be a long winding journey with unforseen. Lots of Gut, patience, determination, understanding from both is required. Not to mention $$$$

P/s: u may want to find out why she disappeared n now earning in JB.

Bro, actually she did not disappear, she relocated from jc and gl and went to ktv in singapore to work and then sometimes go jb work sideline to get little more income. I could not find her i guess as her friends also left with her. I have alot of question to ask her but i think i will ask her slowly as i know her better. I don't want to rush into all this questions and start overthinking towards the negative side and start making ridiculous deductions on her situation.

I done that once, i bailed from her and i regretted. She is a working girl lah i know but i want to give her time to show that she loves me from the bottom of her heart and i also prove my love to her too. i dun want to jump the gun also. I shall see how it goes, it can be a year or two or even five years, i dun care.

However, i understand girls cant wait when the 'time' is right, if she really think a financially richer guy in vietnam or singapore or anywhere else in the world can be the one to give her a blissful life now, i cant really stop her and i wont do that coz i am not capable of giving her a better life for the next 5 years i suppose. Of course i want her to be in my life but i shall communicate and work things out with her and see how.

I am serious about her but lets be realistic, i want to see if things can work out between me and her anot. I want to know more about her and how i can help her slowly(Last year when i know her, i don't aid her financially but now i am starting to help her financially slowly based on my allocated budget which is damn reasonable.). I got nothing to lose, i am taking away the negative voices out there from my head becuz i have faith in myself and her now. period.

PS: i cannot be hasty and anxious on the communications part. Bro Kangtuo i believe placed tons and tons of faith on his beloved gf and took a good period of time to break the communication 'barrier' as she was not in singapore to see him most of the time. Its not blind faith. Its called being understanding and being patient. I need to do this, give it some time, and cannot give up, keep believing until i lose my gf completely if she feels she is more blissful without me in her life for good.... Don't be stereotypical and too emotional at all times i would say, sometimes calm down and being rational is good too i suppose....