Sex after Marriage

[dercius]

Originally Posted by CheeseL

I meant seldom discuss with others. (friends are not open to such talk)

I had discussed with my spouse several times and most of the time jus got shooo off and say we already "lao fu lao qi" (Barely 4ys of marriage).

1st year : Still healthy. At least once a week with some foreplay and something sexy wear /toy
2nd year : Once a week . Quickie foreplay and job done.
3rd year : Once a month kind. No much foreplay now.
4th year : Can count the number of sex with my fingers.

Can't really imagine the rate or we have 3rd party already.

When i read this, i guess money does buy happiness in a way. my mum still wears a ton of lingerie, sex a few times a week and my dad is already in his 50s

[MoeLanYong]

Originally Posted by CheeseL

I meant seldom discuss with others. (friends are not open to such talk)

I had discussed with my spouse several times and most of the time jus got shooo off and say we already "lao fu lao qi" (Barely 4ys of marriage).

1st year : Still healthy. At least once a week with some foreplay and something sexy wear /toy
2nd year : Once a week . Quickie foreplay and job done.
3rd year : Once a month kind. No much foreplay now.
4th year : Can count the number of sex with my fingers.

Can't really imagine the rate or we have 3rd party already.

Sorry to misunderstand bro. Your situation looks bad. How can lao fu lao qi at 4th year only?! Your wife is pulling a fast one to avoid it.

Need more info to help.
1. Do you have kids?
2. Is your wife working?
3. Do you leave it to random urges to initiate sex?
4. How is your relationship with her? Quarrel a lot?

[MoeLanYong]

Originally Posted by dercius

Own mom. I don't hate her but the truth is, she never raised me. All she does is dress up, spend money and spread her legs

My mom never raised me too. She spent more time with Cheh Huat and Ang Tiong than me. She knows how to build a 5 doubles game but don't know what I like to eat. Yet, I would never speak of her that way. Sometimes, life deals us a rotten hand. Just roll with the punches and be that better man

[Conmebol]

Originally Posted by MoeLanYong

My mom never raised me too. She spent more time with Cheh Huat and Ang Tiong than me. She knows how to build a 5 doubles game but don't know what I like to eat. Yet, I would never speak of her that way. Sometimes, life deals us a rotten hand. Just roll with the punches and be that better man

What about Peh Pun?

[BrickBat]

Originally Posted by Lumiere7

I know of some guys who go straight into Year 3 the moment they get married

Means no sex at all

[ro_dy]

normal problems that people don't discuss in my job as an informal sex therapist


1. sex less exciting/less frequent that 10 years ago
2. wife not as wet/hubby not as hard these days


of course there r always lucky cases

[Yesternight]

Originally Posted by BrickBat

Means no sex at all

Think so too

[afterburn]

Originally Posted by ro_dy

normal problems that people don't discuss in my job as an informal sex therapist


1. sex less exciting/less frequent that 10 years ago
2. wife not as wet/hubby not as hard these days


of course there r always lucky cases

It's pretty normal, what you have just described, after 10 years. Not only both husband and wife have aged, but also tired out with work and raising kids.

If the wife is not working, and no kids to care for, but still refuse sex frequently, then that's not so reasonable.

[dercius]

Originally Posted by MoeLanYong

My mom never raised me too. She spent more time with Cheh Huat and Ang Tiong than me. She knows how to build a 5 doubles game but don't know what I like to eat. Yet, I would never speak of her that way. Sometimes, life deals us a rotten hand. Just roll with the punches and be that better man

Originally Posted by afterburn

It's pretty normal, what you have just described, after 10 years. Not only both husband and wife have aged, but also tired out with work and raising kids.

If the wife is not working, and no kids to care for, but still refuse sex frequently, then that's not so reasonable.

Yeah. This is what i meant. i dont hate my mum or anything, just stating the facts. she basically lives a tai tai lifestyle without working while my dad in his 50s, still enjoys sex and blowjobs multiple times every week. like afterburn said, those wives who aren't working and who have tai tai lifestyles, should at least be dressing up and spreading their legs for their husbands

[Dinoroar]

Originally Posted by ro_dy

normal problems that people don't discuss in my job as an informal sex therapist


1. sex less exciting/less frequent that 10 years ago
2. wife not as wet/hubby not as hard these days


of course there r always lucky cases

Nice one sex therapist. We are only 4yrs into marriage and kind dry season already. I do not believe I got to beg for it or create romantic environment right? Getting sian at home and looking for outside flings and ONS.

No offence to other sis and bro here. That's what we are here for.

Please do not zap me. I want to continue posting cos I need a channel to talk.

[maxman]

Many women have a strong desire to have babies, usually and mostly with the man they are in love with.

It is possible that with the biological clock ticking (like a deadline) some women got married just to have a baby. Attraction to, and love for, her husband can subside over time for various reasons, and hence the frequency of sex diminishes. Ironically, some women regret after baby arrives and become depressed. (Read: post natal depression.) The loss of personal freedom with a baby to care for, not surprisingly with past party girls or girls with active social lives, can cause them to become depressed about their lives after baby arrived and this can affect the marriage. Moreover, it is well known that with most couples the baby kills romance, intimacy and sex life but most women probably do not want to hear it. They want babies, and the clock cannot stop ticking.

It is also possible that some women got married as a means to an end, that is, financial security with a man of high income or high social status. After the marriage certificate is signed, sex is gradually withheld or diminished and the man is left trapped in the marriage because a divorce is likely to see him lose half (or thereabouts) of his wealth to her benefit.

Sex is never (or rarely) ever free. Almost every man will eventually pay for it, even in a marriage, and even after divorce (hint: child support).

[Dinoroar]

Originally Posted by maxman

Many women have a strong desire to have babies, usually and mostly with the man they are in love with.

It is possible that with the biological clock ticking (like a deadline) some women got married just to have a baby. Attraction to, and love for, her husband can subside over time for various reasons, and hence the frequency of sex diminishes. Ironically, some women regret after baby arrives and become depressed. (Read: post natal depression.) The loss of personal freedom with a baby to care for, not surprisingly with past party girls or girls with active social lives, can cause them to become depressed about their lives after baby arrived and this can affect the marriage. Moreover, it is well known that with most couples the baby kills romance, intimacy and sex life but most women probably do not want to hear it. They want babies, and the clock cannot stop ticking.

It is also possible that some women got married as a means to an end, that is, financial security with a man of high income or high social status. After the marriage certificate is signed, sex is gradually withheld or diminished and the man is left trapped in the marriage because a divorce is likely to see him lose half (or thereabouts) of his wealth to her benefit.

Sex is never (or rarely) ever free. Almost every man will eventually pay for it, even in a marriage, and even after divorce (hint: child support).

Nice one maxman.

Here got so many experts. Will be camping here for more updates.

Thanks TS for starting this thread. Think we are on the same boat and similar situation. We are also 4 yrs into marriage and going thru dry season, and probably fall into the category of "straight into Year 3 the moment they get married" mentioned by Lumiere7 bro

[hil169]

Nice thread. Thanks bro maxman and other bros. Your input has provided great insight. Best practice I guess will be 'Yours is yours. Mine is mine. No quarrels. No marriage. Not happy, leave.'

[rachbungbinh]

Must continue all the excellent sex after marriage to ensure the success.

[conric]

I am one lucky man I should said married 20 years and both of us in our late 50. We are still banging away at least once a week sometime twice. Both of us still enjoying it and have great sex every time.