Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Honey Boon]

easily extend for another 30 days with ICA's E-EXTEND .....

Originally Posted by SingViet

(3) Easy entry into Singapore as Vietnamese need no VISA for entry as tourist for less than 30 days

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

i also kena zap before, and that joker also leave this remarks.

I really dont understand this person. What is wrong with him or her? I believe this person had a few nicks as I was zapped more than once. Maybe there are some bad experiences?

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

...eagle band medicated oil...

I also bought this. Why does this brand attract them so much? My gf is able to use 2 bottle/mth. I always joked that she drank it. Maybe next time, I shall buy the cheaper "Axe" brand and see whether I will get f* left, right and centre?

Originally Posted by chanyboy

#5: a worn out body after days of 'sx-abuse'

But we enjoyed this the most right?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

easily extend for another 30 days with ICA's E-EXTEND .....

So easy to extend nowadays meh? I have not done that for a long time roi

[Honey Boon]

so far those that I came across, almost everyone can extend easily. used to be only for the first timers, but now even those come 2nd time, also can eXtend

so no need to go johor to make u-turn in order to extend

Originally Posted by SingViet

So easy to extend nowadays meh? I have not done that for a long time roi

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by Thom07

I also bought this. Why does this brand attract them so much? My gf is able to use 2 bottle/mth. I always joked that she drank it. Maybe next time, I shall buy the cheaper "Axe" brand and see whether I will get f* left, right and centre?

I think it is a (eagle band) branded medication oil, and smell nice. if u want to buy the much cheaper axe oil!!!! u comfirm mati.

[snipeshot08]

Originally Posted by Norikasan55

Some info I got from my friend.

e.g.

A PRC married a man and they divorce after she got hold of SPR. If the man is so desperate, he can engage a lawyer to request for her SPR to be revoke as he is the sponsor of the SPR but he have to explain why there is a need to revoke the SPR.

Good info posted

Just to add on that you do not really need to engage a lawyer just to withdraw your sponsorship as it simply overkill when you can draft the letter yourself or go to ICA personally Take note engaging a lawyer for this purpose will set you back at least $500+ for both consultation, letter & follow-up

Cheerios.....SS08 ^_^

[X_plorer]

Originally Posted by snipeshot08

Good info posted

Just to add on that you do not really need to engage a lawyer just to withdraw your sponsorship as it simply overkill when you can draft the letter yourself or go to ICA personally Take note engaging a lawyer for this purpose will set you back at least $500+ for both consultation, letter & follow-up

Cheerios.....SS08 ^_^

Then do you know how to and how much to get a divorce. My wife just brought me to see her friend last Sunday, there is this uncle who married my wife's friend last year. Which i thought my wife is blowing up the story only when i feel it myself, the gal went out with us for a meal together, then to catch up for a while with my wife, but her husband call up and ask where we are, then also ask for my wife's contact.

But here comes the trouble, he call around 10 min later asking where we are going, and ask a lots of question, going where, going to do what, etc..., then after 20 min, he called again, asking where is our exact location, what time coming back etc... then another 10 min called again, asking where is the exact location again, and another 10 min call again, which i n my wife dun even bother to ans, when total to 23 missed call from my mobile, dun how many missed call from her wife's mobile.

But that's not the worst, he calculate even a single cent with his wife that going here and there, like petrol cost to go here and there to eat, so expensive, how much it cost, then eat seafood expensive...etc. I can't even imagine, her wife requested just to eat 2 crab, and my wife told me that the husband didn't even buy for her to eat just because expensive, come on, how expensive is that?

And even she wanted to buy chat chat card to call back to Vietnam, she have to pay for herself.

Here comes the most annoying part. The husband will only give her household allowance after every 30 days in Singapore and will only give 10 days upon reaching 30 days, and she is suppose to work with him from morning 6am to 6pm giving her $50 daily only after work, only food, the husband will pay for her, but all the other things which the wife's need or other things, she would have to pay for herself. I even heard that her husband got a son and a daughter already, but only the son is staying with him. But he even collect rental from his son just because he is staying with him.

The gal told my wife that her husband change totally after marriage from day 1. Which i think, who can endure this type of treatment, is she his wife, or just treating her like a overnight booking working whore?

This uncle is a 60 plus old uncle and the gal is just 20 plus.. And he didn't even give a single cent to her family when married. He is such a miser till who can tolerate this kind of person and act. He is not poor, i seen his car, he can buy a korean car at around $70plus k and fully paid, and wanted to change car in a few months time, and his house also fully paid. But he can be so bastard..

So anyone can figure out who to help the gal to divorce the husband, but the issue is the gal do not have money to pay for the lawyer, but the husband would not file for divorce and pay for the fees neither.

If any bros here wants to know the address of this bastard son of a bitch, i can even find out. I only know he lives at AMK, Blk 547 or 5**, can't remember well, on the second level.

Any comments on this type of people?

[snipeshot08]

Originally Posted by X_plorer

Then do you know how to and how much to get a divorce. My wife just brought me to see her friend last Sunday, there is this uncle who married my wife's friend last year. Which i thought my wife is blowing up the story only when i feel it myself, the gal went out with us for a meal together, then to catch up for a while with my wife, but her husband call up and ask where we are, then also ask for my wife's contact.

I cannot comment on your wife's friend claims as I honestly do not know the truthfulness of it all, so better I just concentrate on the legal aspects

Actually I should not be posting this as its tantamount to teaching the gals to get the better of us bros, aka shooting my own feet

She can file a petition for divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour, much easier if they have been married for more than 3 years. Typical lawyer's fees for non-contested case is about S$3.5K, if contested will be more depending on the duration. However she can try to recover this fee back from the husband side at the later stage. There are many family lawyers in the market and honestly you do not need a very influential or experienced ones unless major assets are involved in the tussle. Free legal aid are available from pro-bono work by lawyers so do a search.

If she is prepared to do so than ask her to list down the chain of events in chronological order as she will be required to do so in the divorce statement, do it now so she won't easily forget it later during the proceedings.

Most people don't know about this but if one is garang enough and english-savvy, you can even file your own petition & related documents, but be prepared to get rejected documents plus countless re-submission before your final copy is accepted for presentation.

Hope this helps.

Cheerios.....SS08 ^_^

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by X_plorer

This uncle is a 60 plus old uncle and the gal is just 20 plus..
Any comments on this type of people?

I think there is generation gap between this old husband and young wife.

IMHO this young gal hv sacrifice herself by marrying a old man in order for her family to hv a better life in vietnam, and turn out to be not case. These type of cases can be heard everywhere in singapore.

[Honey Boon]

well....

清官难判家务事

Sometimes it's difficult to judge when we only listen to one side of the story. The girl's story sounds sad but then again I feel the man just being too "stingy" or too "calculative". Being an old man marrying a young bride, he kind of feel not so "secure", lack of confidence and scare that his young wife will give him a "green" hat.

Other than dat, he is not dat "bad". We have heard much worse stories. Don't encourage her to divorce him la, I am sure there are better solutions than just divorce.

just my 2 dong worth for the day

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

I think there is generation gap between this old husband and young wife.

IMHO this young gal hv sacrifice herself by marrying a old man in order for her family to hv a better life in vietnam, and turn out to be not case. These type of cases can be heard everywhere in singapore.

The thing that is missing in their relationship is TRUST. Its either the husband is overly suspicios or the wife has not been giving the husband that she can be trusted. To be true, this is the main thing lacking in most Singapore - Vietnamese relationship. The reason is most vietnamese gals do a lot of things behind the back of Singapore. Not one or two, but there's a lot of Vietnamese ladies still in contact with their former bfs in vietnam even after they are married to Singaorean man and this is just one of the things they do behind their singaporean husband's back. Trust is not given, it has to be earned.

[SingViet]

There's something that vietnamese mention in 8 out of 10 sentences they made, and that is `tien'. I have never come across any race or country people that placed such utmost importance to money. Just to get more money, they are willing to do almost anything. From the lowly educated to the highly educated, from the poor to the rich, money seems to overrun almost everything in their life. Money is so important until a large proportion of them are willing to sacrifice dignity and other positive virtues just to get money. I was once like any other bro who has just got in touch with viet culture and language, curious and loving. But after being in touch with them for over 6 years, my love for their country and people have turned from curious to understand to negative. I am happy that my wife have understood the good virtues of the outside world and have practised them. Money is important, but we need to earn it with our efforts and earn it with pride, cheating and lies will not get anyone far.

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by SingViet

There's something that vietnamese mention in 8 out of 10 sentences they made, and that is `tien'. I have never come across any race or country people that placed such utmost importance to money. Just to get more money, they are willing to do almost anything. From the lowly educated to the highly educated, from the poor to the rich, money seems to overrun almost everything in their life. Money is so important until a large proportion of them are willing to sacrifice dignity and other positive virtues just to get money. I was once like any other bro who has just got in touch with viet culture and language, curious and loving. But after being in touch with them for over 6 years, my love for their country and people have turned from curious to understand to negative. I am happy that my wife have understood the good virtues of the outside world and have practised them. Money is important, but we need to earn it with our efforts and earn it with pride, cheating and lies will not get anyone far.

Very true! "Tien" is a very important Vietnamese word; often quoted. Indeed, Vietnamese will do anything to get "tien"; including selling one's kidney for <S$5,000.

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[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

There's something that vietnamese mention in 8 out of 10 sentences they made, and that is `tien'. I have never come across any race or country people that placed such utmost importance to money. Just to get more money, they are willing to do almost anything. From the lowly educated to the highly educated, from the poor to the rich, money seems to overrun almost everything in their life. Money is so important until a large proportion of them are willing to sacrifice dignity and other positive virtues just to get money. I was once like any other bro who has just got in touch with viet culture and language, curious and loving. But after being in touch with them for over 6 years, my love for their country and people have turned from curious to understand to negative. I am happy that my wife have understood the good virtues of the outside world and have practised them. Money is important, but we need to earn it with our efforts and earn it with pride, cheating and lies will not get anyone far.

Well said bro, I fully agree. I haven't marry a Vn yet but I saw the importance of "tien". Always Khong co tien......

[saint82]

I must say i finish 1/4 of the thread before posting here..
but really too long already, so never finish all.. i am not here to post a question because i also dun noe wat to ask..

recently i come to know a vietnam WL in one of the pub in geylang..

i don't say i love her lah, but i like her alot and she knows it.. we even went out on a date on her last night in singapore.. she is currently back in vietnam but will be back next month..

i am very confused now.. at first can see that her sweet nothings to me is just playing along with me.. but after she went back, we continue to keep in contact via sms.. she told honestly that at first she is just playing along but now she has slowly taken a liking for me and miss me very much..

I am a poor working class with just enough for myself every month.. of coz the usual coffee, movie courtship money i still can afford lah.. i told her that and she understands it.. i dun noe if i should i continue with her? coz even when she comes back, i couldnt provide her enough to stop her from working.. i am also confused if what she told me is true since after all i know her in a pub and their main aim here is to land a fat goat..

i dun noe wat i can do for her.. and what i want from her.. any way i never went to bed with her before but i do know that she slept a few time with her customer during the time that she is here.. she told me when i ask her about it..

anyway i am single in my mid 20s.. going thu a early career switch at the moment..