Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[rick99]

Originally Posted by retief

Hi. My wife bought that and we used it once about 6 weeks back. During intercourse was ok and both of us seems to finish the deeds. But after 2 days she said is painful and it sometimes causes her to be painful even on urinating. She also said there is a crack on the vaginal wall lining.

I thought with lubrication she would agreed to do it more frequent but the pain and anticipation of it has shunt her off. I guess she is equally lost and despair and can't find a way out.

And she said she need some time to cool off. We had a bit of a chat after 2 weeks of cold war or lack of interaction. And we perhaps agreed to see medical advice and to make sure not physical condition leading to this.

I do not want a separation and I guess time will tell the difference

What abt finger her until orgasm then u continue? While fingerring, u can slowly control the size of your fingers. If not, not harm to seek doctors advice.

[ch1818]

Originally Posted by analog

Bro!

Walk and don't look back. Get out while its a clean get away.
You might have feelings for her but she has NONE for you. Call a lawyer, submit the papers and walk.

its done. You'll live and recover.

While it might be the case that over time all women get a bit bored with sex, when you're newly married you should be fucking like rabbits, unable to keep your hands off each other. if that is not the case.... LEAVE.

All the best,
Jim

Totally agreed with what Bro Jim mentioned......

[Hondafreak99]

So sorry 2 hear bros facing probs w wives. Can only blame asian mindset, kids are the focus once they come into ur lives. Dinner dates, anniversaries forgotten, no longer impt.

My humble suggestion 2 bros here is 2 talk it out w ur wives.

I m very grateful 2 hv a v understanding partner who stood by me even tho I Tao Chiak outside & got caught multiple times. She also realised while trying 2 build her career, she neglected me.

We worked things out but sex life also not great 4 last 5 years until recently we talked abt it & face problem head on. We managed 2 resolve our issues & I was surprised when she said she will gladly pay 4 sex toy I wanted 2 get 4 her instead. Even chose the set together online. I told her I 1 our sex life 2 be like when we were first dating, she got the hint.

So 2 all bros, it can be done. Just be hopeful! I wish u all the best of luck.

P/S: I'm not a guy, but I'm just sharing my views and experience, hoping bros here can get some encouragement.

[asdfghjkl]

Originally Posted by analog

when you're newly married you should be fucking like rabbits, unable to keep your hands off each other. if that is not the case.... LEAVE.

how to leave after married?

[bochapsing]

Originally Posted by purple001

Deep in my heart I'll prob be think- damn, I've spend x years of my youth with u, bore u kids, take care of u and the house etc, and all u can think of its just sex ??? Likely it will make me angrier and felt so unappreciated. Yep, it's part and parcel of marriage life, I do not deny that. But this can only happen if my mind is willing., and i am ready.

tat's the problem....

most girls think tis way " I spend x years of my youth with u, I bore u kids, I take care of u and I take care of the house etc....", "if my mind is willing., and i am ready...."

as if we husband do nothing except wanting to fuck our wives everyday.... and we have to stand by the bed with our cock hard and ready every nite, waiting for our wives to be "willing and ready"....

i do agree it is a "2-way" thing, and i mean "TWO-way"....

we do understand tat bearing a kid is not easy, but we can't just say "darling, leave it to me, let me do it....."

they have to realise and accept tat man n women r different, our needs are "more physical" and we need some sort of release regularly...

i guess most guys won't mind if our wives sometimes just give us a quickie or blowjob or handjob when there is no much time, too tired or watever reasons which do allow a "full course" of love making...

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Hondafreak99

So sorry 2 hear bros facing probs w wives. Can only blame asian mindset, kids are the focus once they come into ur lives. Dinner dates, anniversaries forgotten, no longer impt.

My humble suggestion 2 bros here is 2 talk it out w ur wives.

I m very grateful 2 hv a v understanding partner who stood by me even tho I Tao Chiak outside & got caught multiple times. She also realised while trying 2 build her career, she neglected me.

We worked things out but sex life also not great 4 last 5 years until recently we talked abt it & face problem head on. We managed 2 resolve our issues & I was surprised when she said she will gladly pay 4 sex toy I wanted 2 get 4 her instead. Even chose the set together online. I told her I 1 our sex life 2 be like when we were first dating, she got the hint.

So 2 all bros, it can be done. Just be hopeful! I wish u all the best of luck.

P/S: I'm not a guy, but I'm just sharing my views and experience, hoping bros here can get some encouragement.

I like your sharing till the last bit, "I am not a guy".

Every statement you described she, she she and the last bit, you said you

are not a guy? It really sounds like you are guy, the tone, the words

[Hondafreak99]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

I like your sharing till the last bit, "I am not a guy".

Every statement you described she, she she and the last bit, you said you

are not a guy? It really sounds like you are guy, the tone, the words

Sorry bro, I'm really not guy n my partner is a girl... Even in the lesbian & gay community, also got Tao Chiak one... So just sharing... My apologies if u find my post offensive, no intention.

[notti4u]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

I like your sharing till the last bit, "I am not a guy".

Every statement you described she, she she and the last bit, you said you

are not a guy? It really sounds like you are guy, the tone, the words

Agreed. me also puzzled whether are you a guy or a girl after reading it.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Hondafreak99

Sorry bro, I'm really not guy n my partner is a girl... Even in the lesbian & gay community, also got Tao Chiak one... So just sharing... My apologies if u find my post offensive, no intention.

I see...thanks for sharing....its interesting, not offensive at all

its good thoughts....

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Hondafreak99

So sorry 2 hear bros facing probs w wives. Can only blame asian mindset, kids are the focus once they come into ur lives. Dinner dates, anniversaries forgotten, no longer impt.

My humble suggestion 2 bros here is 2 talk it out w ur wives.

I m very grateful 2 hv a v understanding partner who stood by me even tho I Tao Chiak outside & got caught multiple times. She also realised while trying 2 build her career, she neglected me.

We worked things out but sex life also not great 4 last 5 years until recently we talked abt it & face problem head on. We managed 2 resolve our issues & I was surprised when she said she will gladly pay 4 sex toy I wanted 2 get 4 her instead. Even chose the set together online. I told her I 1 our sex life 2 be like when we were first dating, she got the hint.

So 2 all bros, it can be done. Just be hopeful! I wish u all the best of luck.

P/S: I'm not a guy, but I'm just sharing my views and experience, hoping bros here can get some encouragement.

thats actually quite kinky, would love to hear about your sex toys

experience and sex life girl on girl..... thats hot....

one of my fbs had a lesbian relationship but when I asked her she didnt want

to talk about it. would have been a real turn on to know....

[alwayshornee]

Similar situation....my wife dislikes sex n intimacy with her was like 3-4 time a year n going thru motion. No oral n no fondling....just kiss n intercourse.
Then I found out there was 3rd party n my world crashed.....

Now we sleep in separate rooms n act like normal family when with our teenage kids.
We agreed to divorce n now leading separate lives.

I don't eat outside by the way....though I m tempted too.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by alwayshornee

Similar situation....my wife dislikes sex n intimacy with her was like 3-4 time a year n going thru motion. No oral n no fondling....just kiss n intercourse.
Then I found out there was 3rd party n my world crashed.....

Now we sleep in separate rooms n act like normal family when with our teenage kids.
We agreed to divorce n now leading separate lives.

I don't eat outside by the way....though I m tempted too.

Damn bro, thats sad to know...

hope things all work out. Let I said, I propose to have a wife dont want to have sex with us club, and we hang out trade stories, ways to overcome the

issues, advice or just hang out

[alwayshornee]

Thanks bro....
Sorry to hijack this thread though....
I started one separately.....

Still on medication for my depression n getting better. Just wanna move on n come out of my shell...I

[Hondafreak99]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

thats actually quite kinky, would love to hear about your sex toys

experience and sex life girl on girl..... thats hot....

one of my fbs had a lesbian relationship but when I asked her she didnt want

to talk about it. would have been a real turn on to know....

Ur FB didn't 1 2 share maybe cos something bad happened? Hmmm, I was looking 4 strap-on harness, since old one wasn't good quality.

Was looking at web page then partner whatsapp me asked wat Was I doing, told her looking 4 sex toy. She disturbed me say so horny, she can buy it as my X'mas present. Told her it's 2 b used on her. Then she said go buy, ask wat kind, how much, she will pay instead.
The feeling is like striking 4D

Girls can do 69, breast against back massage..etc

Advice to bros, b careful of Pinay hot chick, they r capable to black magic. I Kenna frm e 1 I Tao Chiak w last time. Lucky I still can pick my old rs back.

[bochapsing]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

Damn bro, thats sad to know...

hope things all work out. Let I said, I propose to have a wife dont want to have sex with us club, and we hang out trade stories, ways to overcome the issues, advice or just hang out

i think ur proposed "Wife Don't Want to Have Sex With Us" Club will have hugh number of followers, u may need to book a convention hall for meet ups....