Dilemma in getting an FB

[sulphur]

Hi SBF Brudders,

First of all let me write a little background of myself before I speak out my actual dilemma.

I am in my late twenties and have always had no problems in getting girlfriends and getting girls on bed. I think that girls do not find me attractive at first glance until we have a chance to chat. That is what I myslf perceived which maybe you guys can assume so at this moment.

For the record, I myself also frequents TN shops with hard massaging as priority and do not really like KTVs and noisy environments (This might be linked to my dilemma later).

It happens after I got into a serious relationship few years back, and now I am married for nearly a year with the same girl, I found out that my guts/balls shrunk so much that I think too much when I interact with another girl and I want her to be my FB, but the consequences keep bothering me. Responsibilities of a husband and the social impact keep going through my mind and that I am not what I used to be already.

It doesnt help that AV is so much clamping down on vice activities that the remaining WL in Singapore are diminishing in service levels as maybe they do not think so long term anymore.

I am actually attracted to my potential FBs not for any visuals, but for the nice conversation if possible, possibly nice and wild nature in bed, no motives in anyway in my social circle(I do not want any changes to my love life, I am happy as it is as such). Sometimes, the adrenaline rush comes when some of my potential FBs are aquaintences and we meet each other once in a while in group events and the excitement of meeting a FB in a awkward group outing is there for me to feel shiok.

I am sure I am not the only guy here that is in this scenario. Can share some of the details with me on your considerations? It is definitely tough for me now, sometimes I even lost the feeling of being a male predator.........

[flintmarco]

TS you write very well.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by sulphur

I am sure I am not the only guy here that is in this scenario. Can share some of the details with me on your considerations? It is definitely tough for me now, sometimes I even lost the feeling of being a male predator.........

Forget about mucking around with girls and concentrate on building your career and your finances.

There'll be enough time to screw around later once you've achieved financial Independence.

[soccerboot]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Forget about mucking around with girls and concentrate on building your career and your finances.

There'll be enough time to screw around later once you've achieved financial Independence.

Bro, what the boss said is right! Get your priority right in life and build a solid foundation first. May the success be with you!

[4am'rs]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Forget about mucking around with girls and concentrate on building your career and your finances.

There'll be enough time to screw around later once you've achieved financial Independence.

I have to agree with him Girls like stable men who can provide and depend-able.

[owl888]

Different phase of life, man will have to focus on other things. Perhaps time for you to have some family planning like having babies. I m sure after that u will be very focus and dunn have time for other things liao

[blowfish]

You should cherish what you have, marriage and the trust from your wife with you. There's no free lunch or dinner in this world, this girls that you wish to pick up are like speed boats and if you're not in their league, you'll have a hard time juggling with their time & your family time. Soon you'll find yourself wasting time & money as you'll never catch up with them.

[sulphur]

Thanks to all bros for your feedbacks.

For career and financial independence wise, I think it is a forever progressive thing in my life and nothing should kill it.

For my wife though, she is definitely open about me having short flings outside. All my massages(with HJs) and the occasional KTV outings I will inform her too. She used to work in a company that she has to go down to KTVs and pay the bill for her company for entertainment, hence she understands that guys will always need varieties.

Just that I am most probably confused by the sudden predator instinct-vs-social impact thinking.

Will most probably stay on the safe side and just continue my massages.

[IFWT]

Wow TS, you are blessed to have such an open minded wife. Cheers to you on that.

[guess67]

I am now tired of meet up and have FB, why?

[sexresearcher]

Stop being delusional. All you hear about FB are on the good side and your little brother is getting a good time.

Wait till you get them emotionally involved and see how big of a mess you make and what you call social cost will really COST you; marriage, career and maybe even mental health.

Yes, its nice and glamorous to get an FB, it says something about you but it will may also say alot more things about you and it is in the wrong limelight.

Just pay, fuck and forget. Life goes on, cunts are aplenty.

[maxpee88]

Originally Posted by sexresearcher

Stop being delusional. All you hear about FB are on the good side and your little brother is getting a good time.

Wait till you get them emotionally involved and see how big of a mess you make and what you call social cost will really COST you; marriage, career and maybe even mental health.

Yes, its nice and glamorous to get an FB, it says something about you but it will may also say alot more things about you and it is in the wrong limelight.

Just pay, fuck and forget. Life goes on, cunts are aplenty.

Hey TS,

I re-quoted this as this IS INDEED IMPORTANT TO RE-read and you should spend some time to think this through. So Bro Sexresearcher said this very clearly n I 200% agree with him.

I read your starting posts and you seemed confused and unsettled over a few things.

You just got married recently and hardly reaching your 5th yr of marriage you are already thinking of getting something extra with an FB.

I noticed you keep mentioning potential FBs, but then you need to ask your self honestly and frankly ARE THEY also thinking of you as an FB too. Please recognise and make a distinction between your fantasy and the girls reality.
They maybe over friendly but they may not have any intent to your FB. You may perhaps fantasize of having a fling with them in a wild sexpisode, but you better make sure before you step into a wrong assumption.

Honestly in my years of marriage, and interaction, office co workers and women are friendlier to MARRIED men because to them, the women feels safe that when they interact and talk to married men. Women with their intuition knows all too clearly that all men are sex animals and can be easily aroused. Between interacting with a single guy and a married guy, they know that single guys are mentailly undressing them and fucking them in their minds MORE than a married man will be doing so. I just cut to the point here and this is not a lesson on life's journey There are plentiful real life stories you can learn from I am sure...

What is an FB? An FB is one who SHARES the same intent with you and they TELL YOU they want to do it with you with no commitments, That's probably a simplified base line to start. If your potential FBs have not expressed this to you yet, they are not likely an FB.

What is mess? A mess happens when an FB over time becomes emotionally attached to you (which let me frankly tell you, it WILL happen) since Sex to a Woman (no matter what they say initially to you) is a personally deep emotional attachment. When your FB becomes emotion, be prepared to face a stressful time that will turn messy and screw up your current life, your marriage, your family, your career and even your reputation.

And I am sure there are many more other realistic things I can relate, but you get my point.

I hope you take the advise from older samsters and experienced bros here.

Firstly take care of your current priorities, whether it is building up your career, your finances or your family or your married life. Once you have done that, then maybe you can think about fucking around with 1 or 2 FBs.

For now - if you have sexual urges, I suggest you do a the commercial route.

Also, don't think just because your wife has to do KTV expenses approval etc.. and knows what men do in KTV and Massages, means she is 'open to your extra -activities'.

Your wife as you briefly described, is a gem if she has been so open and understanding. You should at least value her and treat her as such with utmost respect.

[callmebad]

it's nice to have a lot of women, but this is the beginning part only but later will be a different story

a real good life example is the Macau casino king, you look at him now, he has so many wives, do you think he is happy? He is not yet dead, but his wives and kids treat him as though he is dead, fighting over his wealth

as guys, we're naughty by nature, like to fuck around
but just don't get too entangle with it
your marriage is ok now, don't do anything to hurt it, even if you're not an MP
while young, don't spend too much time and energy on women or on things that will not benefit you in any way, 10 years down the road,or else you'll regret later

outside women is like those soya sauce, chilly sauce,ketch up
you can only have a bit, but not too much
a little bit will make things taste better, too much of it will have problem like causing stomach upset
you're already have a 'bowl of white rice or porridge' at home - won't cause you stomach upset, won't hurt your health

[chowchowkeith]

play hard !!
play wild!!
just dont get caught.

[Virginhere]

Once your pocket are filled with cash, flowers will automatically fly towards you..