Regrets after getting married and having kids

[Haodimilo]

Hi all, been a lurker for awhile now. Reading mostly the erotica and some stories here.
I had been married for 3 years now, w 2 kids..
However i find myself regretting getting married and having kids...

Why? Less sex..from daily during sch days to 1x a week to 1x every 3month. From wife actively engaged in sex to being a dead fish just lying there.
Shes even asked me to go for vasectomy, but im thinking why go for it if we arent even going to have sex?

Feeling very frustrated, and lousy about this..

Any bros/sis here feeling the same..?

[pushup]

For me single is better lol

[fallen11]

married before
regretted too
went for divorce
now happily single

luckily i regretted before having kids. so i got no kids now

[kalchansy]

Originally Posted by fallen11

married before
regretted too
went for divorce
now happily single

luckily i regretted before having kids. so i got no kids now

Same here bro, divorced and no kid

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by Haodimilo

Feeling very frustrated, and lousy about this..

Any bros/sis here feeling the same..?

I think she is worried about having a 3rd child. Financially, are both of you struggling to cope with the expenses of raising 2 children? If you are done with having children, vasectomy is an option. If she knows she will not accidentally get pregnant again, maybe she will be more in the mood.

Whatever it is, don't think of divorce. You will be badly burnt financially having to still raise 2 children.

[larue]

If your problem is just not enough and unsatisfying sex, just pay for it and go home.

Lots of happy fathers who do that.

Unless you are unhappy about a lot of other shit in your marriage.

[Malibog]

I’m going through the same dilemma as TS too. Married for almost 10 years with 3 kids. Intimacy with spouse is bad, never have sex since beginning of COVID CB period. Affection for her has been diluted until as bland as water. As a matter of fact I enjoy being at work than being at home. I know it’s not right to think or behave in such manner. The kids are my current focus to stay. Can say it’s because of guilt and responsibilities. Wanted to end the marriage, but worried and sorry for the kids.

[confourtious]

Originally Posted by pushup

For me single is better lol

I prefer to remain single too.

[Bullshitlar]

Talk to your wives. Work on the relationship, fix the relationship.
Help out at home n take care of the kids.
Continue to do romantic things
Daily sincere acts of love assurance and appreciation matters

When having sex, the importance of your wife enjoyment is key to constantly getting more sex.

Get yourself tied or she IUD so no more stress over another kid. Unlimited creampie stress free

Go to the gym, work out and dont be a fat lazy fuck

Have a life. Dont just work and go home watch tv , drink beer or play games
For example, photography, cooking, fishing, cycling, and many more.

Ask yourself if you would fuck yourself before wondering why ur no longer getting sex.

Keep improving yourself.

Lastly
Dont validate your enjoyment of life, worth and happiness base on sex.

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by Malibog

I’m going through the same dilemma as TS too. Married for almost 10 years with 3 kids. Intimacy with spouse is bad, never have sex since beginning of COVID CB period. Affection for her has been diluted until as bland as water. As a matter of fact I enjoy being at work than being at home. I know it’s not right to think or behave in such manner. The kids are my current focus to stay. Can say it’s because of guilt and responsibilities. Wanted to end the marriage, but worried and sorry for the kids.

dont live your live just for others.
Its very pointless.
Even for your kids. when they grown up and understood things, they'll probably want you to have your own life instead of living just for them (if they grow up to be good and understanding people).
Kids tend to follow what parents do too. I'm sure you dont want your kids to grow up next time and live the life which you are living now.
Just go for it, live life to the fullest.
Of course not asking you to just desert your kids. Just commit have the free time and money on them will do. No need to commit 100% of your everything to them. Dont need to spoil them, dont need go for everything the most expensive. Just ensure they have enough. For basic stuff like food, shelter, education, a bit of leisure life.
Strike a balance between the two. You'll be much happier this way

Sorry for kids if you divorce? Yes a bit, but i would say it cant be helped. My parents are divorced since i was young. Pretty fine for me. Dont blame them much. What is going to happen, will still happen.
Worried? I would say its more of thinking too much. As long as you provided sufficient support, they'll do just fine. Let nature run its course.

[iluvbreast]

Originally Posted by Haodimilo

Hi all, been a lurker for awhile now. Reading mostly the erotica and some stories here.
I had been married for 3 years now, w 2 kids..
However i find myself regretting getting married and having kids...

Why? Less sex..from daily during sch days to 1x a week to 1x every 3month. From wife actively engaged in sex to being a dead fish just lying there.
Shes even asked me to go for vasectomy, but im thinking why go for it if we arent even going to have sex?

Feeling very frustrated, and lousy about this..

Any bros/sis here feeling the same..?

Do you have frequent fights with your wife? You mentioned she became a dead fish....is it because she is too tired?

I mean you should find out the reason for her change, having children is one thing, becoming too tired as a result is another. I still say talk to resolve when it is still possible...

[LooksLikeJesus]

Originally Posted by Haodimilo

Hi all, been a lurker for awhile now. Reading mostly the erotica and some stories here.
I had been married for 3 years now, w 2 kids..
However i find myself regretting getting married and having kids...

Why? Less sex..from daily during sch days to 1x a week to 1x every 3month. From wife actively engaged in sex to being a dead fish just lying there.
Shes even asked me to go for vasectomy, but im thinking why go for it if we arent even going to have sex?

Feeling very frustrated, and lousy about this..

Any bros/sis here feeling the same..?

Can I ask you why did you get married in the 1st place? Coz i got plenty of examples around me from young till now. The thought only surfaced once briefly when I was 30. Luckily, I didn't give in to it.

[doombringer]

nothing much u can do, plz dont go for vasectomy (its just a shit test done by girls to disrespect u), girls can take birth control pills. its very safe, used to shoot raw inside with gf (she took it daily sometime missed it but quickly pop back), never got pregnant, although still had a very slim chance.

its a sad fact of life, u stick to one partner long enough it get boring. don't really need to stay too committed and be too serious. just take life less seriously, go out meet new people have fun. ultimately find $. $ gives you freedom, gives you respect in a sense (judging from the way your wife treat u she doesnt respect u)

[Haodimilo]

Originally Posted by LooksLikeJesus

Can I ask you why did you get married in the 1st place? Coz i got plenty of examples around me from young till now. The thought only surfaced once briefly when I was 30. Luckily, I didn't give in to it.

Shotgun ma bro.. so just get married lor. We were dating for 7years prior to this marriage. Thought it was the next step... End up... Nightmare

[SGBJ2016]

Don’t get into divorce, Just “eat out” once in a week or so. There are so many options. It may actually help your marital sex life too.